I have no idea if a year ago my turn ons/turn offs would have been the same, but I think this year comes down to one word. Authentic.
My biggest turn off is a fake. It’s the person who acts like they are and then vaporizes when you need them. It’s the person who pretends to be someone they are not in order to gain your attention. It’s the person who puffs you up for their own gains.
I am messy. I am frustrating. I can be way too much quickly followed by too little.
But, I am always me. The good pieces and bad pieces and in between ones are always there. I am never going to be fake, sometimes much to the chagrin of people who are related to me or have to work with me.
I am turned off by the people who choose not to be themselves with me. I can handle the bad along with the good, but I don’t want to spend time figuring out if they are being honest. I don’t want to get to know a person just to find out that it was all a sham. I don’t want someone telling me that I am important and running after the next person who catches their eye. It’s exhausting enough to have any kind of relationship without putting effort into something that has no future.
What turns me on? Realness. If you are having a bad day and don’t want to talk? I totally understand. If you want to rant and have someone listen? I’m there. And I want to get to know the real person behind the internet persona. To giggle and tease and just have fun.
Hard times arouse an
Coco Chanel
instinctive desire for
authenticity.
I think that’s why Snake and I are still together. We’ve always been real with each other. It isn’t always pretty or quiet, but we trust each other enough to be ourselves. His words match the look in his eyes. It isn’t easy, but it is worth the connection that this authenticity creates.
So, yes, while I enjoy looking like the next person, there is no real turn on without knowing that I know the person enough to be real with them and have them reciprocate.
Your pursuit of the authentic deserves respect. Especially considering the fact that you yourself are always real, that is, genuine. Well, at least from your words.
Thank you. I really try to be
I am right there with you, Charmer. I am always myself, and I expect that of others too. Actually, I am always the last one to find out someone hasn’t been authentic, as I believe people on face value. It has brought me in some terrible situations throughout my life. Great post!
~ Marie
It’s so frustrating to find that out.
Thank you!
I m so with you here – I can not bare fakeness or pretense – I want it real – and true
May x
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You are so right on this. There is nothing that switches me off more than people who are not authentic and I agree with you that the reverse is true. I think that D/s has made me even more fixed on this because of the level of openness we have now so sometimes I struggle to understand why people bother with being fake. Great post. Missy x
It feels like a lot of work to keep up facades.
Thank you!