My happy place is when things are “on” and she’s physically in control. I love the mental games we play too, but there’s something so nice about the physical control.
Big stressors going on? She knows the buttons to push to pull things back to the present. There’s something about the trust, the elegance of the touch, and the restraint – both restraining, and showing restraint – that is an amazing piece of what makes things tick.
Knowing when to push. Knowing when to slow up a bit . Knowing when to take, and knowing when to give.