Today’s topic is all about hugging. Sounds a bit cheesy perhaps on the outset, but bear with me. Hugging, for us, is a very versatile thing. Hugging is a calming thing, when things go nutty, a recovery thing after a scene or … correction.Continue reading “About That Hugging”
One of the hardest things to do is to stick with it on all of this that we like to do and play with. I think it’s pretty rare that you’ll get it right, or as right as it could be, the first time out of the gate… keep going. Keep trying.Continue reading “Perseverance – Stick With It!”
I have curves too, ya know. But it’s just not the same as hers. Mine aggravate me. Hers, well, hers are amazing and sexy and suggestive and just right.Continue reading “Those Curves Though”
Topping from the Bottom is the adversary to D/s and FLR type arrangements. I pretty firmly believe this to be the case in so many ways.
I’m not talking about this from a preachy – one true way – standpoint, but rather from a position of “you have to let it work, let it evolve, let it become your own unique thing.”Continue reading “Don’t Stop Believin’”
I was having a conversation with a good friend online this morning, talking about the differences between kink and sex and how all of these things weave into relationships and how we see and are with our partners. Then, they said the darndest thing.Continue reading “Inter-Dependency and Kink”
I mean, seriously. There are all sorts of fishnets – from really fine mesh patterns to lacy patterns to broad, open patterns.Continue reading “What Is It About Fishnets?”
We’ve been just being lazy for a bit. Watching the latest episodes, enjoying some wine, nibbling on bits and pieces of cheese and poking at each other.
“Time for my back rub…” you say, popping up off the couch. “And I’d really love a refill on the wine.”Continue reading “Charmer: Time For My Back Rub”
It’s amazing having those key people in your life, seeing that the impact is so much more than the “sum of the parts.”Continue reading “I Am, Because We Are”
You nuzzle in, scooting up against my chest and shoulder as you settle in for the night against me. I swear, at times like this, you were a cat in a former life and I can almost hear you purring. It’s wonderful, relaxed and delicious to fall asleep this way.Continue reading “I Cancelled Your Appointments”
One of the hardest things to manage is a continuous bit of activity from Charmer. This has played out many times – many times it’s a challenge to see if I can last “X” amount of time, or through “X” number of interchanges.Continue reading “Can You Last 15 Minutes? Keep Track!”
Someday I hope we don’t have to be as careful about all of this stuff we’re collectively interested in. It’s weird, if you stay in our relatively small comfort zone bubble where we interact with others with the same acceptance, their own interests, etc. – it all becomes ok.Continue reading “Someday, Will We Flaunt?”
I have said it before – I love the ways that all of this thing we do can be done. Flavors of a theme, different “levels” or activities, different approaches. All of it so finely tuned to what works for you and your partners, it’s pretty cool that there is this assumption that “well, yeah. There’s this thing, but you have to figure out the details for you in what you like.“
Take the good ol’ chastity cage, for example. There’s everything from “rivet that sucker in place” to “we use it for play time” and none is better than any other. It’s what works for you.Continue reading “Motivation, Chastity and Life”
Meeting me at the door with the mistletoe held over your head and that grin – priceless. The fact that you’re dressed in a sleek black lacy bit of lingerie – just adds to the effect. I just about drop everything right there, but the door hasn’t even closed behind me.Continue reading “Bawdy Bells 3 – Naughty or Nice… well, duh.”
Charmer seems to always be looking for interesting ways to introduce chance into the mix of things. OK, let’s be real. Usually “chance” is heavily slanted and influenced by her, to her advantage, but that’s half the fun – knowing that if I were to win a round, things would be that much sweeter… that time anyway.
This is no different.Continue reading “Domme’s Advent Calendar, Or Sexy Time Bingo”
She loves to tease, to edge and to control. It’s not as much about denial, but about the control of the thing that she loves. The randomness (to me) of it all, and the “never knowing when/if” are things she is masterful at, and things she relishes.Continue reading “Apologies for a hair trigger”
The Wicked Wednesday theme this week is multitasking. Kind of cracked me up because I think I may be one of the more odd people that this is actually a kink of mine, something that features A LOT in different posts, stories, ideas and fantasies.Continue reading “Multitasking as a Kink? Leave it to me.”
“Take my car today, please…” she says. “I may have some donation stuff and I want to get it into the back of your truck so you can take it over after work.” Silly me, I didn’t think much of it, but that it seemed out of nowhere.
Someday, someday I hope I’ll flip on that “something is not right here…” switch and at least be able to pick up on things when a game is afoot. Today… is not that day.Continue reading “Tinted Windows”
“I’m feeling really lazy, and like, well, switching things up,” you tell me. “And besides, I like to watch you. So… here’s the deal. You get to cum!“
I smile. Then my brain kicks back in and I realize there must be a catch. There’s always a catch. Some weird twist on things or some other tweak you’re putting in the mix.
I’m not wrong.Continue reading “You’re Going to Have to Work for It…”
“This is going to be a little bit of a different approach,” she says, sitting me down in the chair. She kneels on the floor in front of me, then spins slightly to grab a glass of wine off the table and turn back toward me.
I smile, then frown exaggeratedly when I realize the wine is for her, not me. “Silly. This is for me. I’m going to enjoy this.” She sips the wine again, then looks at me. Without breaking the look, she tells me what’s up, finally.Continue reading “Sit back, relax, show me”
I stretch and bat at my phone, trying to turn off the ringer. It won’t stop making noise as I push all the buttons and end up taking groggy nasty selfies and screenshots and more. It’s so frustrating that it’s funny and you’re laughing at me from under the covers next to me.
I roll back over and you whisper in my ear “unlock.”Continue reading “I KNEW it was out of character!”
I’m a techie kind of person. I really like, and even need, to understand the why of how things work. Even me. And one of the things that I really geek out on are these ideas of conflicting … things.
My favorite? Pain and pleasure.Continue reading “Pain and Pleasure”
There’s no secret, I don’t think, that Charmer has a lot of fun playing with marks (bites, impact stuff, etc.). It’s probably also no secret that we live in the desert. That means pools. Swimming.Continue reading “Awkward Marks and Swimming Season”
When we take pictures for the site, it’s quite often that for one picture here, there are 30, 40, 100 other images that we rejected out of hand. It’s not that I’m that great with a camera, and certainly not all pictures are FAB-U-LOUS, it’s that it’s this inside fight in my mind that I sort of know what I’m looking for, but haven’t learned yet how to get it.
Then all of that gets mixed in with this permission to really, really explore, particularly in the case of Charmer. I get to explore with my eyes. With my mind. And all of that comes through the camera.Continue reading “My Camera(s) Are My Voice Many Times”
Sort of answer the first, with the second. But suffice to say I think I’d be classified as “kinky” and I can vouch for Charmer holding that banner as well. Weird thought, interesting label, but it got me thinking about that. Well, that and a series of posts about Chastity (think diamonds) and so much more.Continue reading “Do you… Kink? And What is Locktober/Chastity About?”
Anyone I’ve shared this with “in real life” has always opened with this. Followed by a gaping mouth stare at me, considering whether I should be admitted to a medical facility or not. It’s very bizarre. But… I am so glad I did it, went through with it.Continue reading “You Got a Piercing… WHERE?”