FLR, D/s, Life and Kink
Needs. Wants. How to figure out which is which and even more important, how to balance it all.
I wish I had a good answer on how I do it. I don’t think that I do it all that well at times. I think that I confuse my own wants and needs quite often. I might think it’s a need, but is it? Or do I just want it so much that I think that I need it?
Continue reading “Charmer’s Thoughts on Balancing Needs”Today has been a day of list making and trying to knock a few things off the list. I have lists for me, lists for Snake, and more lists for work and life. Just as I cross off a few, I always end up adding another to the bottom.
Continue reading “Defining Charmer”Freedom is one of those words that seem to have as many meanings as there are people in the world. I think each one of us has our own definition and how it fits into our life.
Absolute freedom doesn’t really exist in my view. There are always things that impede on that even if you are alone. Eating is kind of important to me and I like indoor plumbing. That said, I decided to focus on freedom as it applies more to our blog.
Continue reading “Choose Freedom”There are good secrets and bad. The ones that excite you and you don’t want to spoil and the ones that you know are wrong.
Continue reading “The Secret Life of…Charmer”It’s hard for me to look back and see another path because Snake and I always tend to look forward more than back. Yeah, we have the regrets that everyone has, but we try to take what has happened and make something else of it. And realizing that the other path wasn’t really what we wanted anyway.
Continue reading “Where Would We Be?”Trying to pick one moment or even series of moments that I would like to revisit is SO hard… so, I’m going to cheat a bit and pick a genre of moments that are always the ones that I go back to in my head.
Continue reading “Traveling”Yes, this will indeed be more random shit from the wacky brain of Charmer. I was reminded on Facebook that it has been four years since Snake and I danced our awesome routine to White Rabbit. It was a crazy routine and we wore steampunk costumes which were the best. And best of all? My corset stayed up while we did several lifts so my in-laws didn’t die of embarrassment.
Continue reading “White Rabbit”As most of you know, we live in the desert. Not the sand dunes and tumbleweeds kind–well, except for the random crazy ones when we drove to Phoenix once. Our desert is about 2500 feet above sea level and surrounded by mountains so there is a constant variety in our world.
Continue reading “Desert Philosophy by Charmer”I had two ideas for this post and I couldn’t decide which way to go. I had the memorable kisses idea and then a day of kisses in our life. So, lucky you, I decided to do both.
Continue reading “Kissing”Today marks 10 years since my mom died. It weirdly seems like it was yesterday and like it was so much longer ago. Life goes on and we keep going and it’s strange that she hasn’t been here to see things unfold.
Continue reading “My Way”Trigger warning: suicide
This is definitely not the usual Charmer post. I wasn’t sure if I would write for this post because it’s a subject that has a lot of baggage for me. A friend told me that I should, that what I have to say might make a difference, so…
Continue reading “The Boy in the Photo”When I first saw the prompt “Nightmares,” I was thinking that I might not have anything to write. I really don’t tend to have nightmares, or at least don’t remember them if I do.
Continue reading “Dreaming”Yes, moo. Lol. I was thinking about what song to write about today and I looked through several of my favorites–thanks, Snake, for making me try to come up with three favorites. I can’t come up with three. Music is totally dependent on my mood and I go from country to rock to show tunes to pop and all roads in the middle.
Continue reading “Moo with Me”Some of you might remember Christian Kane from Angel, or Leverage or The Librarians. He also has an album that most people have never heard of that has some great music–IMHO. Kinda rock, kinda country.
Continue reading “Let’s Take a Drive”I am fortunate–well, some might say unlucky–to live in a place with sunshine about 286 days out of the year. Yes, it does get hot in the summer and we rarely get snow but the sunshine is abundant.
Continue reading “Love Me Some Sunshine”I’ve always been a writer. I was the kid who wrote stories on summer break when I wasn’t reading them. I majored in journalism and have done a great deal of technical writing in my job. So, what is the difference when I blog?
Continue reading “The “Why” of Blogging”I’m a klutz. The number of ways that I have managed to cut, bruise, scrape, etc., various parts of my body is a marvel.
Continue reading “ISTP”I am writing this on Sunday even though it will be posted on Thursday because we are heading out of town. We are going to Las Vegas, aka Sin City, for a mini vacation and it got me thinking about some of the cool and really funny things that we’ve seen and done there.
Continue reading “Memories”My first thought, being non-religious, was nope. We don’t do rituals. I tend to think of them as parts of the experience of religion which doesn’t really have a part in my life. Yes, I have a Christmas tree so I suppose that qualifies but it doesn’t feel ritualistic in my head.
Continue reading “Rituals”I would love to be the person who can put up one sentence or quote and say, “Wow. It’s me. ” It feels like that would mean that I had a strong sense of who I am. THIS IS ME on a plate/post/image seems like it should be attainable, but, alas, no luck so far.
Continue reading “My Life in Quotes”I think back to me at 5 and where we were in the world. I was in Stockholm for over half of the year because my dad was working on a long-term project there. I have some very clear memories and mostly a lot of foggy ones.
Continue reading “Three Things to Know”I don’t think that will come as a surprise to anyone that Snake is my person. In so many ways that I can only hope that I am half the person to him that he is to me.
Continue reading “My Person”I wasn’t sure what to write on this subject to be honest. Strangely even though it is spelled differently, the first thing that came to mind is the perfume which my mother used to wear.
Continue reading “What is Taboo?”I was so excited when I saw this topic because I get to share pictures of my favorite subject: Snake.
[Snake: Sigh.]
Continue reading “Tell Me About: Collars and Cuffs”As I was catching up on blogs after our trip, I happened to catch this post that I had missed. It’s 3 Real Questions People Ask Google About Dominants, Submissives, and D/s by Kayla Lords who I find an awesome blogger.
Continue reading “Real Life and D/s”