MMMmmmmmm… She says in her sleep… I think.
Continue reading C is for Chastity: That Overnight PressureTag Archives: D/s
E is for Expectations
When I first started thinking about this prompt, all of the quotes talked about making sure you have low expectations to avoid being hurt or disappointed. While that way be true for the “outer world,” I don’t want to live that way within our marriage and dynamic.
Continue reading E is for ExpectationsP is For (Her) Prey
It’s strange how quickly a scene can change, and how it can be physically, mentally, or both.
But it sure does.
Continue reading P is For (Her) PreyExpectation of Service
I am spoiled. Totally admit that. Snake takes care of most of the house chores except cooking and he does that on Saturdays if we are cooking at home. Laundry, cleaning, garbage and lately even grocery shopping.
Continue reading Expectation of ServiceDipping the Toe Back In….
Hey….Yes, I know. We’ve been absent. Life has been crazy here just like with everyone else in the world and we just needed some time to hide and try to figure out any sort of normal.
Continue reading Dipping the Toe Back In….Myth Busting by Charmer
There are always so many myths surrounding D/s and FLR. So many come from books, TV and movies–they get it wrong so much more often than they get it right.
Continue reading Myth Busting by CharmerAnniversary Scrabble–The Results
Yes–we did finally finish the game that I started on the 6th…. It ended on Saturday night with my backrub and happy ending.
Continue reading Anniversary Scrabble–The ResultsQuick Scrabble Update
As I mentioned on Twitter, work got crazy right after we got back from Las Vegas so I had to postpone the game for a little bit. It still hasn’t eased up and I don’t see that happening for the near future so I decided that we need the game to carve out a little time for us.
Continue reading Quick Scrabble UpdateMotivation, Chastity and Life
I have said it before – I love the ways that all of this thing we do can be done. Flavors of a theme, different “levels” or activities, different approaches. All of it so finely tuned to what works for you and your partners, it’s pretty cool that there is this assumption that “well, yeah. There’s this thing, but you have to figure out the details for you in what you like.“
Take the good ol’ chastity cage, for example. There’s everything from “rivet that sucker in place” to “we use it for play time” and none is better than any other. It’s what works for you.
Continue reading Motivation, Chastity and LifeRewards and Punishment from the Charmer Side
I admit that when we first started our path through D/s and FLR, rewards and punishment weren’t on the top of my mind. Partly, I think because our relationship had history where Snake tends to do what I like and he rarely fights anything with me unless he feels really strongly about it.
Continue reading Rewards and Punishment from the Charmer SideScavenger Hunt
It starts with a note in your lunch. Check your glove compartment box for the beginning of the quest. Intrigued, you go out and find a magnifying glass and a photo.
Continue reading Scavenger HuntThis is Us.
My happy place is when things are “on” and she’s physically in control. I love the mental games we play too, but there’s something so nice about the physical control.
Continue reading This is Us.Sit back, relax, show me
“This is going to be a little bit of a different approach,” she says, sitting me down in the chair. She kneels on the floor in front of me, then spins slightly to grab a glass of wine off the table and turn back toward me.
I smile, then frown exaggeratedly when I realize the wine is for her, not me. “Silly. This is for me. I’m going to enjoy this.” She sips the wine again, then looks at me. Without breaking the look, she tells me what’s up, finally.
Continue reading Sit back, relax, show meEdge For Me
It’s just a normal Sunday night. We’ve done our workouts, had some dinner, watched some TV and now it is bath time. As usual, you start the water, put in the bath bomb, get my water and phone and Kindle and strip naked to wait for me.
Continue reading Edge For MePain and Pleasure
I’m a techie kind of person. I really like, and even need, to understand the why of how things work. Even me. And one of the things that I really geek out on are these ideas of conflicting … things.
My favorite? Pain and pleasure.
Continue reading Pain and PleasureTime for your collar…
I round the corner to come down the hall and see you standing there. You’re not even looking in my direction. Your right hand? A deep red, leather, paddle.
Continue reading Time for your collar…From Below… or “the last thing my body may see…”
The prompt for the week is “from below” – and it struck me (pun intended) that really, from below, could be all sorts of fun things.
Continue reading From Below… or “the last thing my body may see…”Tell Me About: Collars and Cuffs
I was so excited when I saw this topic because I get to share pictures of my favorite subject: Snake.
[Snake: Sigh.]
Continue reading Tell Me About: Collars and CuffsReal Life and D/s
As I was catching up on blogs after our trip, I happened to catch this post that I had missed. It’s 3 Real Questions People Ask Google About Dominants, Submissives, and D/s by Kayla Lords who I find an awesome blogger.
Continue reading Real Life and D/sTell Me About: The Power Exchange
I try to think back to the very beginning of our relationship and pinpoint a time when there wasn’t a pretty distinct power exchange. I don’t think there was one even long before we knew “what” a power exchange was.
Continue reading Tell Me About: The Power ExchangeFrom comment: “What makes you so special?”
We’ve not received the volume of negative comments that others do, for that, I’m not at all unhappy. But we did receive one the other day that actually had me thinking.
In essence, (paraphrased) “What makes you so special? FLR and D/s and these things all of you write about don’t make you better than (me) and I’m sick of reading about it. People without this aren’t less happy, less sexy, less (fill in the blank)… Stop dictating how people should live!”
In essence, SHUT UP ABOUT IT.
Continue reading From comment: “What makes you so special?”Snippet of Life
From our DM this morning…
Continue reading Snippet of LifeSnake’s Perspective: Lifestyle D/sFLR
This is a second part to Charmer’s post, here.
I don’t get as many questions about things as Charmer does – but I do get a lot of assumptions. I get assumptions about what it means to be in an FLR with D/s structure and how it all works for us. It’s odd how people will see a video, read a story someplace and assume that that’s both reality and the same for everyone.
Continue reading Snake’s Perspective: Lifestyle D/sFLRCharmer’s Perspective: Lifestyle Dominance
Oh, you’re a Domme? I get that question at least a few times a week. However, it is phrased, from genuine interest to titillation, there are definite assumptions made about me, Snake and us. Some true, some false and some downright laugh out loud funny.
Continue reading Charmer’s Perspective: Lifestyle DominanceGratitude and Dominance
Just a quick game update: So far for round two, we are 2:1 on wins so it’s very close. And Snake has 3/7 ruined O’s under his belt (get it?) so we are making progress with my win from last round.
Continue reading Gratitude and Dominance