Honor may seem like a strange word when it comes to the world of TTWD, but it truly is a core underpinning. I was considering how this might weave into all of this that we all write, read and live about, and it occurs to me that honor is really the base of being able to do these things and make them what you need.Continue reading “Honor is a Strange and Important Thing”
Charmer has been experimenting. Again.
Edging is one of those things that fit in the “frustration, but hella fun” category. It’s bizarre, difficult to manage at times, and overall, it’s a very demanding thing (don’t you feel sorry for me? )Continue reading “To the Edge and Back… and Back Again”
Looking back at October, and at chastity in general, it’s bizarre to think it’s been something like 6+ years of full-time for Charmer and me. We’ve learned a lot, we’ve had some interesting debates (both with us and from outside folks) and we’ve seen this kinky twitter and blogging space roll back and forth as different things sweep through, chastity being one of them.Continue reading “Locktober… and Chastity Overall”
See, one of the things about kink is that it opens up your mind. It opens the thoughts of “if that was great, what about “X”” – it’s an ongoing cycle that drives kink forward and gets you to consider all sorts of things… I mean, what if…
That’s exactly the thing that is happening right now. What if the impact play is, well, played with. What if it’s more, different, etc. Not in a “beat the crap out of me” standpoint, I’m not really interested, and she’s not really interested in dealing out, the art of being a butt-fillet. But…Continue reading “Always More, Eh?”
Charmer likes to push boundaries, heck, we both do. I think little nudges in new directions tend to add up to big nudges that introduce new ideas, new things to think about, new experiences.
We’ve added Boot Camp weekends to the mix of late – we do them when it strikes Charmer’s fancy, no real schedule- but it has lately been running Friday-Monday on choice weekends.Continue reading “100 Edges, 12ish hours.”
Chastity has been a really interesting physical and thought experiment run with me. We’re now into this full-time since 2015 – this grand process of FLR, D/s and the chastity cage. I never really anticipated what it would be like, the impact it might have and the cool learning it’s lead to.Continue reading “C is for Chastity Cages and D/s”
I’ve never really given or asked for a lot of advice. Cynically maybe, it feels like when I’ve been asked for advice, it isn’t really that they want advice. They want me to tell them that what they want to do is right rather than really wanting advice.Continue reading “A is for Advice”
This weekend is bootcamp. Not the exercise type, but the D/s type.Continue reading “B is for Bootcamp”
There’s a disconnect in my brain about feeling sexy and being interested in sex. I can feel sexy and still not be interested. I guess, in general, I’m not interested if I don’t feel sexy, but that’s actually not usually an issue.Continue reading “F is for Feeling Sexy”
The line between want and need is blurry at best. Most of the time I think the line wanders between the two and sometimes they are the same thing.Continue reading “C is for Connected”
“That’s not the mug I set out for you this morning,” you say as you watch me pour the water for my tea.Continue reading “M is for Morning Mug”
I am not really known for my patience. I tend to get frustrated with inanimate objects that don’t cooperate–Snake just silently comes in and takes it usually–and I hate waiting when I can’t see the reasoning for waiting.Continue reading “P is for Patience”
Were we always kinky? Yes, definitely. Were we always kinky the way we are now? Not really.Continue reading “K is for Kinky”
When I think about the foundation of our dynamic, the first word that comes to mind is trust.Continue reading “T is for Trust”
I don’t know if we have ever told the stories about our pen names, to be honest. The names actually came before we started the blog because we needed Twitter handles.Continue reading “C is for (Steeled Snake) Charmer”
“I need you, inside me, now. “
I was high as a kite hearing that. It was early in the morning, we had the house to ourselves, she has THAT look in her eyes. I’m raging against the cage, needing to feel her, wanting to feel her.
“Unlock. Get back here.”Continue reading “D is for Denial… Torture”
MMMmmmmmm… She says in her sleep… I think.Continue reading “C is for Chastity: That Overnight Pressure”
When I first started thinking about this prompt, all of the quotes talked about making sure you have low expectations to avoid being hurt or disappointed. While that way be true for the “outer world,” I don’t want to live that way within our marriage and dynamic.Continue reading “E is for Expectations”
It’s strange how quickly a scene can change, and how it can be physically, mentally, or both.
But it sure does.Continue reading “P is For (Her) Prey”
I am spoiled. Totally admit that. Snake takes care of most of the house chores except cooking and he does that on Saturdays if we are cooking at home. Laundry, cleaning, garbage and lately even grocery shopping.Continue reading “Expectation of Service”
Hey….Yes, I know. We’ve been absent. Life has been crazy here just like with everyone else in the world and we just needed some time to hide and try to figure out any sort of normal.Continue reading “Dipping the Toe Back In….”
There are always so many myths surrounding D/s and FLR. So many come from books, TV and movies–they get it wrong so much more often than they get it right.Continue reading “Myth Busting by Charmer”
Yes–we did finally finish the game that I started on the 6th…. It ended on Saturday night with my backrub and happy ending.Continue reading “Anniversary Scrabble–The Results”
As I mentioned on Twitter, work got crazy right after we got back from Las Vegas so I had to postpone the game for a little bit. It still hasn’t eased up and I don’t see that happening for the near future so I decided that we need the game to carve out a little time for us.Continue reading “Quick Scrabble Update”