There’s a disconnect in my brain about feeling sexy and being interested in sex. I can feel sexy and still not be interested. I guess, in general, I’m not interested if I don’t feel sexy, but that’s actually not usually an issue.Continue reading “F is for Feeling Sexy”
The line between want and need is blurry at best. Most of the time I think the line wanders between the two and sometimes they are the same thing.Continue reading “C is for Connected”
“That’s not the mug I set out for you this morning,” you say as you watch me pour the water for my tea.Continue reading “M is for Morning Mug”
I am not really known for my patience. I tend to get frustrated with inanimate objects that don’t cooperate–Snake just silently comes in and takes it usually–and I hate waiting when I can’t see the reasoning for waiting.Continue reading “P is for Patience”
Were we always kinky? Yes, definitely. Were we always kinky the way we are now? Not really.Continue reading “K is for Kinky”
When I think about the foundation of our dynamic, the first word that comes to mind is trust.Continue reading “T is for Trust”
I don’t know if we have ever told the stories about our pen names, to be honest. The names actually came before we started the blog because we needed Twitter handles.Continue reading “C is for (Steeled Snake) Charmer”
“I need you, inside me, now. “
I was high as a kite hearing that. It was early in the morning, we had the house to ourselves, she has THAT look in her eyes. I’m raging against the cage, needing to feel her, wanting to feel her.
“Unlock. Get back here.”Continue reading “D is for Denial… Torture”
MMMmmmmmm… She says in her sleep… I think.Continue reading “C is for Chastity: That Overnight Pressure”
When I first started thinking about this prompt, all of the quotes talked about making sure you have low expectations to avoid being hurt or disappointed. While that way be true for the “outer world,” I don’t want to live that way within our marriage and dynamic.Continue reading “E is for Expectations”
It’s strange how quickly a scene can change, and how it can be physically, mentally, or both.
But it sure does.Continue reading “P is For (Her) Prey”
I am spoiled. Totally admit that. Snake takes care of most of the house chores except cooking and he does that on Saturdays if we are cooking at home. Laundry, cleaning, garbage and lately even grocery shopping.Continue reading “Expectation of Service”
Hey….Yes, I know. We’ve been absent. Life has been crazy here just like with everyone else in the world and we just needed some time to hide and try to figure out any sort of normal.Continue reading “Dipping the Toe Back In….”
There are always so many myths surrounding D/s and FLR. So many come from books, TV and movies–they get it wrong so much more often than they get it right.Continue reading “Myth Busting by Charmer”
Yes–we did finally finish the game that I started on the 6th…. It ended on Saturday night with my backrub and happy ending.Continue reading “Anniversary Scrabble–The Results”
As I mentioned on Twitter, work got crazy right after we got back from Las Vegas so I had to postpone the game for a little bit. It still hasn’t eased up and I don’t see that happening for the near future so I decided that we need the game to carve out a little time for us.Continue reading “Quick Scrabble Update”
I have said it before – I love the ways that all of this thing we do can be done. Flavors of a theme, different “levels” or activities, different approaches. All of it so finely tuned to what works for you and your partners, it’s pretty cool that there is this assumption that “well, yeah. There’s this thing, but you have to figure out the details for you in what you like.“
Take the good ol’ chastity cage, for example. There’s everything from “rivet that sucker in place” to “we use it for play time” and none is better than any other. It’s what works for you.Continue reading “Motivation, Chastity and Life”
I admit that when we first started our path through D/s and FLR, rewards and punishment weren’t on the top of my mind. Partly, I think because our relationship had history where Snake tends to do what I like and he rarely fights anything with me unless he feels really strongly about it.Continue reading “Rewards and Punishment from the Charmer Side”
It starts with a note in your lunch. Check your glove compartment box for the beginning of the quest. Intrigued, you go out and find a magnifying glass and a photo.Continue reading “Scavenger Hunt”
My happy place is when things are “on” and she’s physically in control. I love the mental games we play too, but there’s something so nice about the physical control.Continue reading “This is Us.”
“This is going to be a little bit of a different approach,” she says, sitting me down in the chair. She kneels on the floor in front of me, then spins slightly to grab a glass of wine off the table and turn back toward me.
I smile, then frown exaggeratedly when I realize the wine is for her, not me. “Silly. This is for me. I’m going to enjoy this.” She sips the wine again, then looks at me. Without breaking the look, she tells me what’s up, finally.Continue reading “Sit back, relax, show me”
It’s just a normal Sunday night. We’ve done our workouts, had some dinner, watched some TV and now it is bath time. As usual, you start the water, put in the bath bomb, get my water and phone and Kindle and strip naked to wait for me.Continue reading “Edge For Me”
I’m a techie kind of person. I really like, and even need, to understand the why of how things work. Even me. And one of the things that I really geek out on are these ideas of conflicting … things.
My favorite? Pain and pleasure.Continue reading “Pain and Pleasure”
I round the corner to come down the hall and see you standing there. You’re not even looking in my direction. Your right hand? A deep red, leather, paddle.Continue reading “Time for your collar…”
The prompt for the week is “from below” – and it struck me (pun intended) that really, from below, could be all sorts of fun things.Continue reading “From Below… or “the last thing my body may see…””