I am spoiled. Totally admit that. Snake takes care of most of the house chores except cooking and he does that on Saturdays if we are cooking at home. Laundry, cleaning, garbage and lately even grocery shopping.Continue reading “Expectation of Service”
Hey….Yes, I know. We’ve been absent. Life has been crazy here just like with everyone else in the world and we just needed some time to hide and try to figure out any sort of normal.Continue reading “Dipping the Toe Back In….”
There are always so many myths surrounding D/s and FLR. So many come from books, TV and movies–they get it wrong so much more often than they get it right.Continue reading “Myth Busting by Charmer”
Yes–we did finally finish the game that I started on the 6th…. It ended on Saturday night with my backrub and happy ending.Continue reading “Anniversary Scrabble–The Results”
As I mentioned on Twitter, work got crazy right after we got back from Las Vegas so I had to postpone the game for a little bit. It still hasn’t eased up and I don’t see that happening for the near future so I decided that we need the game to carve out a little time for us.Continue reading “Quick Scrabble Update”
I have said it before – I love the ways that all of this thing we do can be done. Flavors of a theme, different “levels” or activities, different approaches. All of it so finely tuned to what works for you and your partners, it’s pretty cool that there is this assumption that “well, yeah. There’s this thing, but you have to figure out the details for you in what you like.“
Take the good ol’ chastity cage, for example. There’s everything from “rivet that sucker in place” to “we use it for play time” and none is better than any other. It’s what works for you.Continue reading “Motivation, Chastity and Life”
I admit that when we first started our path through D/s and FLR, rewards and punishment weren’t on the top of my mind. Partly, I think because our relationship had history where Snake tends to do what I like and he rarely fights anything with me unless he feels really strongly about it.Continue reading “Rewards and Punishment from the Charmer Side”
It starts with a note in your lunch. Check your glove compartment box for the beginning of the quest. Intrigued, you go out and find a magnifying glass and a photo.Continue reading “Scavenger Hunt”
My happy place is when things are “on” and she’s physically in control. I love the mental games we play too, but there’s something so nice about the physical control.Continue reading “This is Us.”
“This is going to be a little bit of a different approach,” she says, sitting me down in the chair. She kneels on the floor in front of me, then spins slightly to grab a glass of wine off the table and turn back toward me.
I smile, then frown exaggeratedly when I realize the wine is for her, not me. “Silly. This is for me. I’m going to enjoy this.” She sips the wine again, then looks at me. Without breaking the look, she tells me what’s up, finally.Continue reading “Sit back, relax, show me”
It’s just a normal Sunday night. We’ve done our workouts, had some dinner, watched some TV and now it is bath time. As usual, you start the water, put in the bath bomb, get my water and phone and Kindle and strip naked to wait for me.Continue reading “Edge For Me”
I’m a techie kind of person. I really like, and even need, to understand the why of how things work. Even me. And one of the things that I really geek out on are these ideas of conflicting … things.
My favorite? Pain and pleasure.Continue reading “Pain and Pleasure”
I round the corner to come down the hall and see you standing there. You’re not even looking in my direction. Your right hand? A deep red, leather, paddle.Continue reading “Time for your collar…”
The prompt for the week is “from below” – and it struck me (pun intended) that really, from below, could be all sorts of fun things.Continue reading “From Below… or “the last thing my body may see…””
I was so excited when I saw this topic because I get to share pictures of my favorite subject: Snake.
[Snake: Sigh.]Continue reading “Tell Me About: Collars and Cuffs”
As I was catching up on blogs after our trip, I happened to catch this post that I had missed. It’s 3 Real Questions People Ask Google About Dominants, Submissives, and D/s by Kayla Lords who I find an awesome blogger.Continue reading “Real Life and D/s”
I try to think back to the very beginning of our relationship and pinpoint a time when there wasn’t a pretty distinct power exchange. I don’t think there was one even long before we knew “what” a power exchange was.Continue reading “Tell Me About: The Power Exchange”
We’ve not received the volume of negative comments that others do, for that, I’m not at all unhappy. But we did receive one the other day that actually had me thinking.
In essence, (paraphrased) “What makes you so special? FLR and D/s and these things all of you write about don’t make you better than (me) and I’m sick of reading about it. People without this aren’t less happy, less sexy, less (fill in the blank)… Stop dictating how people should live!”
In essence, SHUT UP ABOUT IT.Continue reading “From comment: “What makes you so special?””
From our DM this morning…Continue reading “Snippet of Life”
This is a second part to Charmer’s post, here.
I don’t get as many questions about things as Charmer does – but I do get a lot of assumptions. I get assumptions about what it means to be in an FLR with D/s structure and how it all works for us. It’s odd how people will see a video, read a story someplace and assume that that’s both reality and the same for everyone.Continue reading “Snake’s Perspective: Lifestyle D/sFLR”
Oh, you’re a Domme? I get that question at least a few times a week. However, it is phrased, from genuine interest to titillation, there are definite assumptions made about me, Snake and us. Some true, some false and some downright laugh out loud funny.Continue reading “Charmer’s Perspective: Lifestyle Dominance”
Just a quick game update: So far for round two, we are 2:1 on wins so it’s very close. And Snake has 3/7 ruined O’s under his belt (get it?) so we are making progress with my win from last round.Continue reading “Gratitude and Dominance”
I have lived in the desert for most of my adult life, but I have to think that the change in seasons might be as clear other places.Continue reading “Change in the Air”
I spent a lot of time driving over the weekend, and between music in the headphones and the road, my mind was multi-tasking and thinking about how I remember different… sessions. I realized as I thought back over these times that one thing kept coming up. Sound.Continue reading “Weird How We Recall Scenes, D/s”
Playtime is a great thing. Playtime can be a torturous time too though. Charmer tends to lean hard on the torture side of things – sometimes physical, sometimes mental. This is a perfect example of one of those times.
She likes to step all over my inability to talk about anything sexual, to answer direct, specific questions about something that’s going on. Of course, once she finds one of those soft spots, she pokes and pokes and pokes at it, just because she can.Continue reading “Elabor8: “Tell me more…””