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From comment: “What makes you so special?”

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We’ve not received the volume of negative comments that others do, for that, I’m not at all unhappy. But we did receive one the other day that actually had me thinking.

In essence, (paraphrased) “What makes you so special? FLR and D/s and these things all of you write about don’t make you better than (me) and I’m sick of reading about it. People without this aren’t less happy, less sexy, less (fill in the blank)… Stop dictating how people should live!”

In essence, SHUT UP ABOUT IT.

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Chastity, Every Damn Day in June 2019, Life, Wicked Wednesday

Finally Figured Out My Kink

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I always see these checklist of stuff that people (may) like to do, be, participate in, have done, whatever. I’m sure you’ve seen them – my favorite was a Periodic Table of Kink where it showed, by “type” different things people may be interested in. My OCD loves that it’s broken into the different areas and ideas.

But, of course, as soon as you start really looking, you find that there are so very many things (let alone Rule 34) that people like to do. You can see this on Fetlife too – 1000’s of kinks, from situational to objects to every combination you can imagine.

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Sometimes I Talk Too Much

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What a glorious day – the beach is beautiful, the sun is perfect.  Not too hot, but that special warmth on the skin that makes you want to just take pause and lean back and enjoy it.  There’s a slight breeze even, coming off the ocean and through the small bushes and trees up and down the beach.  We have this perfect spot, clean sand, some greenery, easy short trip to the cabana bar and just… silence.

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FPF – Tired of Seeing Steel Yet?

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Just in case it’s no…

One of the things about chastity toys and devices and how you approach it is that it’s so different person-to-person – or at least you have a lot of options in how you want to approach it.  For some it’s outright denial.  For others it’s a bondage-type thing.  For still others it’s a “control” thing.

For some, the steel is a great thing.  And that’s just an initial pass, and doesn’t take into account power exchange stuff or any combination of these and other things.

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Chastity, D/s, Fiction?, Games, Impact Play, Spanking, Submission

On Display

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Everyone started arriving for the party and I noticed one thing in the people you’d invited.  They were all women.  You’d had presented the party as an afternoon get together – time by the pool, casual conversation, etc.  You’d asked me to don my very best attire (think dress shorts and a sleeveless tux shirt and bowtie) and provide drinks for everyone, playing up the service side to have some fun.  Nothing overt, just a ladies day at the pool, with service.

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Chastity, D/s, Fiction?, Submission

So Wet

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We’d spent the entire day walking and joking and eating and drinking and just exploring.  We’d never been to this town before – and that was why we chose it – just completely unknown.  Kind of lost track of the number of pubs and taste-testing of food.

It’s also been raining all day.  The kind of rain that defeats the umbrella – where it’s just insistent and continuous and you eventually almost give up on it… and just fold up the umbrella.

We’re soaked to the core.  The crowds are non-existent because of the rain and we’re enjoying just being silly, splashing around, goofing off a bit.

As night falls, the shops start to close up and we hunker down in a pub a bit out of the way that happens to still be open.  We’re looking for some drinks and food and you start dropping little hints.  You’ve turned the conversation into a bit of a Q&A, “what if I required you to do…” type questions.  It’s a little out of the blue, but for the most part, I can admit I’m game.

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Elust #90 – So Many Incredible Posts to Read!

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Photo courtesy of Rebel’s Notes

Welcome to Elust 90–

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #91 Start with the rules, come back February 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

 

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Conflicted part 1

Glow

Happy Endings

 

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Please You to Please Me

How to suck my cock – part 1 (attitude)

 

~Readers Choice from Sexbytes ~

Visions of Sugarplums

 

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Sinful Sunday #71 – Challenge Day 10 -Boundaries

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Today’s challenge was two-fold – I was asked to come up with the Sinful Sunday shot, but also that it push things a bit – ya know, me being shy and all that.  After a couple of *REJECTED* ideas, Charmer decided this was artsy enough and pushed those blurred lines a bit.

We’ll call this one, “Always a tease.”

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D/s, Kink of the Week, Submission

In Defense of Long Elevator Rides… Sort of

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As we get on the elevator, I realize we won’t be alone.  I had hoped to give the security camera guys an eyeful as we rode the elevator up and walked to our room, but it just wasn’t meant to be.  It seems like stream of people getting on just never stopped.

That was when I realize you were backing into me, subtly, and driving me with your body to the back corner.  I lean against the back wall, trying to not be too disappointed that we aren’t alone.  I realize with start that your hand has remained behind you and, though it may (may) look innocent to others, it was positioned just so… before people even finish streaming in, you are slowly unzipping my pants.

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Picture: Wrought Iron and Leather III (And Steel)

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This is the last in a series that we took.  This shows off Charmer’s sadistic side a bit – it allows for some side to side play, but you’re not going *anywhere* meaningful.  She has told me before that she prefers movement many times, rather than being absolutely locked in place.

Movement doesn’t mean you’re going anywhere, but (as they say), the struggle… is real. 🙂

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Chastity, D/s, Fiction?, Orgasm control

Ratios. And Forcing the Issue.

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As you lay back and pull me to you, you draw my lip into your mouth as we kiss – nipping at me, biting, kissing, releasing and pulling me back to you for more.  One of my favorite things is kissing you, which seems… odd for a dude maybe, but it is, and has always been, a huge hot-button for me.

You take advantage of that so frequently.  It doesn’t take much – from your tongue dancing around in my mouth, to pulling mine into yours to small bites and more substantial chomps, you know exactly how to get my attention, and I, yours.

Your neck.

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Chastity, D/s, Fiction?, Orgasm control, Uncategorized

The Slow Fuse

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“Yes, until you tell me to stop,” you tell me slyly as you look at me with that look out of the corner of your eye.  “And, of course, if I don’t feel like stopping, I won’t.”

Those words keep dancing around in my head during dinner as I’m trying to get what you’re saying.  You’re talking about anything and everything BUT the upcoming session tonight.  The weather.  The other people around us.  All of it.  Every now and I hear you say under your breath with a little giggle, “oh, this is going to be so much fun.”

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Chastity, D/s, Fiction?, Submission

Surprise Service Submission

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“Honey, can you come in here a minute please?”

It’s all I hear from the other side of the house.  I wander through, trying to figure out where you are and finally find you in the library, in your personal space, with your books and books and more books.  This is where you come to escape.  But when I look at you, you’re in what can only be called classic librarian mode.  Sort of.

You’re there, hair up, glasses on, pencil in your mouth, facing the other way, leaned back in your most comfortable reading chair.  You’re in this dreamy state that I think I recognize…

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Chastity, Fiction?, Games, Submission

Dancin’ (Most) of the Night Away

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I see you across the club, having a drink, dancing with various people, just generally swaying to the music and having a great time.  I, on the other hand, can’t take my eyes off you.  You’re in this flirty-wispy short country-style skirt and have on boots and an incredible hat.  Watching you dance, line dance and just, well, watching you is becoming hazardous.  I’m pretty sure you’ve noticed me staring.

I’m doing my best to look away, to not be overly obvious.  I grab some liquid courage and have a couple of drinks to take off my nervous edge, but when I look back, I can’t find you anywhere.   I start to panic, thinking I’ve missed my chance.  I slump into my chair and try to keep telling myself that you’ll be back.  But I can’t help feeling like I totally blew it.

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Orgasm Control vs. Orgasm Denial

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Snake and I have been having this long winded discussion about whether we are doing control or denial.  This, of course, means that we have to actually figure out what we mean by those two words….

This all started last week when Thumper posted his May metrics.  We, being the nerds that we are, also have spreadsheets and ratios and all of that.  Thumper said that he was at 11 for the year so I had to check our stats.  Snake is at 6.

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Chastity, Fiction?, Submission

What I’d Do If…

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It all starts by kissing, just kissing.  It’s one of the most erotic, sensual things we can do – and every second of it is powerful.  I kiss down your neck, just there at the base of your neck on your shoulder.  I start with light kisses, and move to little nibbles and lingering kisses.  I can tell I’ve hit some of the right spots – your breathing changes ever so slightly in just those spots…

You reach out, grabbing the back of my head, embedding your hands in my hair, then squeezing a handful to use as a lever.  You’re steering me a bit now, already taking charge of where you want me.  You pull me up, kissing me deeply nibbling on me as you go.  Then you push me back to the other side and release just a bit, letting me wander down your neck, to your shoulder, then out a bit and back.

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