Motivation, Chastity and Life

I have said it before – I love the ways that all of this thing we do can be done. Flavors of a theme, different “levels” or activities, different approaches. All of it so finely tuned to what works for you and your partners, it’s pretty cool that there is this assumption that “well, yeah. There’s this thing, but you have to figure out the details for you in what you like.

Take the good ol’ chastity cage, for example. There’s everything from “rivet that sucker in place” to “we use it for play time” and none is better than any other. It’s what works for you.

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Hot and Sexy Reads for the Fire – Bawdy Bells 10

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Welcome to Elust 125

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #125? Start with the rules, come back January 1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

 

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

For Love

Apologise

I got that Dominant Feeling

 

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Observing a Sex blogger or Two by Mr More
The cutie pie and the sex toy, Part 2

Erotic Fiction

Lelia, Interrupted
The Flight
Helping Hand (a Husband’s Fantasy)
The Sexual Torture Wave
Room 26 – Pearce (A Life of Pleasure Part 2)

Thoughts & Advice on Sex & Relationships

That Little Click
Learning to Be Friends Again
5 Reasons Why Unsolicited Dick Pics Aren’t Ok
My partner is FB official with my metamour

Body Talk & Sexual Health

You Like That, Don’t You? -A Submissive’s Str

Erotic Non-Fiction

Silk
The Bodyguard, Part I
A Dirty Treat

Sex News, Opinion, Interviews, Politics & Humor

5 Countries Where Sex Toys Are Illegal
Mainstream Chastity?

Thoughts & Advice on Kink & Fetish

Submissive Training is it necessary?
Cum tribute me

Blogging

Plan your multitasking…
Spam bot or sex worker?

Books and Movies

Secret Diary of Call Girl: Celluloid Dungeon
 

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Need some amazing reading? Check these out!

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Welcome to Elust 124

The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at Elust. Want to be included in Elust #125? Start with the rules, come back December1st to submit something and subscribe to the RSS feed for updates!

 

~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

Death of Sexual Desire

Snapshot

Your consent is not continual

~ Featured Post (Molly’s Picks) ~

Smile for the Camera

Lessons From Two Years in a Polyamorous Triad



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The Things We Do …

Minds are an interesting place. Or, at least in my case, MY mind is a strange place. I am constantly looking at this or that picture or video or reading a post or story or book and thinking….

Oh yeah? Well, what if we went to the next step? What IS that next step? What would that be like? How would that work… then my brain devolves into this animal mode thing of irrationality and obsession…

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From comment: “What makes you so special?”

We’ve not received the volume of negative comments that others do, for that, I’m not at all unhappy. But we did receive one the other day that actually had me thinking.

In essence, (paraphrased) “What makes you so special? FLR and D/s and these things all of you write about don’t make you better than (me) and I’m sick of reading about it. People without this aren’t less happy, less sexy, less (fill in the blank)… Stop dictating how people should live!”

In essence, SHUT UP ABOUT IT.

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Finally Figured Out My Kink

I always see these checklist of stuff that people (may) like to do, be, participate in, have done, whatever. I’m sure you’ve seen them – my favorite was a Periodic Table of Kink where it showed, by “type” different things people may be interested in. My OCD loves that it’s broken into the different areas and ideas.

But, of course, as soon as you start really looking, you find that there are so very many things (let alone Rule 34) that people like to do. You can see this on Fetlife too – 1000’s of kinks, from situational to objects to every combination you can imagine.

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Sometimes I Talk Too Much

What a glorious day – the beach is beautiful, the sun is perfect.  Not too hot, but that special warmth on the skin that makes you want to just take pause and lean back and enjoy it.  There’s a slight breeze even, coming off the ocean and through the small bushes and trees up and down the beach.  We have this perfect spot, clean sand, some greenery, easy short trip to the cabana bar and just… silence.

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FPF – Tired of Seeing Steel Yet?

Just in case it’s no…

One of the things about chastity toys and devices and how you approach it is that it’s so different person-to-person – or at least you have a lot of options in how you want to approach it.  For some it’s outright denial.  For others it’s a bondage-type thing.  For still others it’s a “control” thing.

For some, the steel is a great thing.  And that’s just an initial pass, and doesn’t take into account power exchange stuff or any combination of these and other things.

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On Display

Everyone started arriving for the party and I noticed one thing in the people you’d invited.  They were all women.  You’d had presented the party as an afternoon get together – time by the pool, casual conversation, etc.  You’d asked me to don my very best attire (think dress shorts and a sleeveless tux shirt and bowtie) and provide drinks for everyone, playing up the service side to have some fun.  Nothing overt, just a ladies day at the pool, with service.

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So Wet

We’d spent the entire day walking and joking and eating and drinking and just exploring.  We’d never been to this town before – and that was why we chose it – just completely unknown.  Kind of lost track of the number of pubs and taste-testing of food.

It’s also been raining all day.  The kind of rain that defeats the umbrella – where it’s just insistent and continuous and you eventually almost give up on it… and just fold up the umbrella.

We’re soaked to the core.  The crowds are non-existent because of the rain and we’re enjoying just being silly, splashing around, goofing off a bit.

As night falls, the shops start to close up and we hunker down in a pub a bit out of the way that happens to still be open.  We’re looking for some drinks and food and you start dropping little hints.  You’ve turned the conversation into a bit of a Q&A, “what if I required you to do…” type questions.  It’s a little out of the blue, but for the most part, I can admit I’m game.

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