About us – Steeled Snake

August 12, 2020August 12, 2020

S is for Sixth Sense

The first time that I remember having THAT feeling, I was in 4th grade. It was a Sunday night after dinner and just before the phone rang, I told my mom that grandma was going to call. The phone rang less than a minute later with her telling us that my grandfather had died.

August 10, 2020

A is for Alone (Together)

Those of you with extended families might understand the rules for watching TV series–there are some that you can only watch when all of you are there. You can’t cheat and watch ahead even if there is nothing else to watch.

August 1, 2020

A is for Arizona

The first thing that we always get when people learn that we live in the desert Southwest is “But how do you survive it being so hot?” Followed by the assumption that we live in a kitty litter box.

July 30, 2020

Strengths and Weaknesses

I tend to be nitpicky. I tend to be obsessive. I’m quick to anger. I am stubborn. I hate criticism. I’m sure Snake could help with other traits that aren’t coming to mind.

May 21, 2020

Soundtrack of Charmer and Snake

Since I have been with Snake more of my life than without him, picking songs becomes a challenge because there are so many.

May 19, 2020

We Miss Traveling

Snake and I tend to take quite a few short trips each year. Several to visit family as well as one or two that are just for us to get time to reconnect.

March 19, 2020

Holding On

Like most of the rest of the world, we are struggling to find a new normal for the time being. It definitely makes it harder to blog about sexy stuff when everything is so scary around us.

March 12, 2020

Random Thursday Thoughts From Charmer

I was conducting serious research over what to write today–some might call it scrolling walls and timelines, but I prefer the scholarly view–and found this.

March 10, 2020

We Don’t Do Sports, Do We?

I’ve never been the traditional sports person. I know — I’m *so* traditional in all other ways. I did the ballet thing for a year when I was little, twirled a baton for a minute, hiked, tennis with my dad and Tae Kwon Do in high school. Yes, the occasional recital or competition, but nothing really.

March 3, 2020

The Importance of Dating

Snake and I have been together for a couple of years now. Just a few. We dated, then we married and had a few date nights here and there. Life gets busy and you figure, “Hey, we see each other all of the time–we don’t need dates.”

January 28, 2020

Shutting Up the Inner Voice

When I thought about what to write about my inner voice, I started searching quotes for something that would inspire me. There were so many that talked about always listening to that voice, how it was your true self and that it was more important than listening to others.

January 23, 2020

Friendship

I’ve never had what I considered a lot of friends. I’ve always been more of a few close friends and a lot of people who I like to do things with. They are casual friends but not the ones who would get a call if I needed something.

January 16, 2020

Home is Where You Love

When I started to think about writing for this prompt, I knew that my answer to “Is home a Place or Person?” had to be both. At least for me.

January 14, 2020

Charmer’s Thoughts on Balancing Needs

Needs. Wants. How to figure out which is which and even more important, how to balance it all.

I wish I had a good answer on how I do it. I don’t think that I do it all that well at times. I think that I confuse my own wants and needs quite often. I might think it’s a need, but is it? Or do I just want it so much that I think that I need it?

December 20, 2019

Bawdy Bells 5 — Lies?

The Christmas piece of this prompt never really applied to me. Yes, we put out cookies and milk for Santa and got a gift on Christmas morning. And, yes, I was told when I questioned if he was “real,” that only kids who believe got gifts from him. But, it was always more of an embodiment of the magic of Christmas rather than a person so it never felt deceitful to me.

December 10, 2019

Rewards and Punishment from the Charmer Side

I admit that when we first started our path through D/s and FLR, rewards and punishment weren’t on the top of my mind. Partly, I think because our relationship had history where Snake tends to do what I like and he rarely fights anything with me unless he feels really strongly about it.

December 3, 2019

Defining Charmer

Today has been a day of list making and trying to knock a few things off the list. I have lists for me, lists for Snake, and more lists for work and life. Just as I cross off a few, I always end up adding another to the bottom.

November 21, 2019

Choose Freedom

Freedom is one of those words that seem to have as many meanings as there are people in the world. I think each one of us has our own definition and how it fits into our life.

Absolute freedom doesn’t really exist in my view. There are always things that impede on that even if you are alone. Eating is kind of important to me and I like indoor plumbing. That said, I decided to focus on freedom as it applies more to our blog.

October 8, 2019

Desert Philosophy by Charmer

As most of you know, we live in the desert. Not the sand dunes and tumbleweeds kind–well, except for the random crazy ones when we drove to Phoenix once. Our desert is about 2500 feet above sea level and surrounded by mountains so there is a constant variety in our world.

September 3, 2019

Moo with Me

Yes, moo. Lol. I was thinking about what song to write about today and I looked through several of my favorites–thanks, Snake, for making me try to come up with three favorites. I can’t come up with three. Music is totally dependent on my mood and I go from country to rock to show tunes to pop and all roads in the middle.

August 28, 2019

Core Sub Issues

It’s funny, really. I read the posts about things on the /s/ side of life and they really strike a chord with me. Like this post, by Domina Jen. The post isn’t supposed to be about /s/ types, it’s about Dommes and the responsibilities and coolness associated with that, but there it is again – the weirdness associated with being a Man-sub. (Is that a thing? Ya know, like a man-cub, but… )

August 25, 2019

ISTP

I’m a klutz. The number of ways that I have managed to cut, bruise, scrape, etc., various parts of my body is a marvel.

July 28, 2019

Restless

There are days when writing this blog is easy. Two or three posts will come out with no effort at all. Other times, I scan memes and other blog posts and I stare at a blank screen. Today, of course, is the latter.

July 11, 2019

From comment: “What makes you so special?”

We’ve not received the volume of negative comments that others do, for that, I’m not at all unhappy. But we did receive one the other day that actually had me thinking.

In essence, (paraphrased) “What makes you so special? FLR and D/s and these things all of you write about don’t make you better than (me) and I’m sick of reading about it. People without this aren’t less happy, less sexy, less (fill in the blank)… Stop dictating how people should live!”

In essence, SHUT UP ABOUT IT.