I’ve never had what I considered a lot of friends. I’ve always been more of a few close friends and a lot of people who I like to do things with. They are casual friends but not the ones who would get a call if I needed something.
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Home is Where You Love
When I started to think about writing for this prompt, I knew that my answer to “Is home a Place or Person?” had to be both. At least for me.
Continue readingCharmer’s Thoughts on Balancing Needs
Needs. Wants. How to figure out which is which and even more important, how to balance it all.
I wish I had a good answer on how I do it. I don’t think that I do it all that well at times. I think that I confuse my own wants and needs quite often. I might think it’s a need, but is it? Or do I just want it so much that I think that I need it?
Continue readingBawdy Bells 5 — Lies?
The Christmas piece of this prompt never really applied to me. Yes, we put out cookies and milk for Santa and got a gift on Christmas morning. And, yes, I was told when I questioned if he was “real,” that only kids who believe got gifts from him. But, it was always more of an embodiment of the magic of Christmas rather than a person so it never felt deceitful to me.
Continue readingRewards and Punishment from the Charmer Side
I admit that when we first started our path through D/s and FLR, rewards and punishment weren’t on the top of my mind. Partly, I think because our relationship had history where Snake tends to do what I like and he rarely fights anything with me unless he feels really strongly about it.
Continue readingDefining Charmer
Today has been a day of list making and trying to knock a few things off the list. I have lists for me, lists for Snake, and more lists for work and life. Just as I cross off a few, I always end up adding another to the bottom.
Continue readingChoose Freedom
Freedom is one of those words that seem to have as many meanings as there are people in the world. I think each one of us has our own definition and how it fits into our life.
Absolute freedom doesn’t really exist in my view. There are always things that impede on that even if you are alone. Eating is kind of important to me and I like indoor plumbing. That said, I decided to focus on freedom as it applies more to our blog.
Continue readingDesert Philosophy by Charmer
As most of you know, we live in the desert. Not the sand dunes and tumbleweeds kind–well, except for the random crazy ones when we drove to Phoenix once. Our desert is about 2500 feet above sea level and surrounded by mountains so there is a constant variety in our world.
Continue readingMoo with Me
Yes, moo. Lol. I was thinking about what song to write about today and I looked through several of my favorites–thanks, Snake, for making me try to come up with three favorites. I can’t come up with three. Music is totally dependent on my mood and I go from country to rock to show tunes to pop and all roads in the middle.
Continue readingCore Sub Issues
It’s funny, really. I read the posts about things on the /s/ side of life and they really strike a chord with me. Like this post, by Domina Jen. The post isn’t supposed to be about /s/ types, it’s about Dommes and the responsibilities and coolness associated with that, but there it is again – the weirdness associated with being a Man-sub. (Is that a thing? Ya know, like a man-cub, but… )
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