Back before I’d really started seriously into this lifestyle of FLR and Chastity with Charmer, I had read about people that had figured out how to control their orgasms (from the guy’s perspective). I thought it was fascinating. I also thought it was the stuff of fantasy. No way. We had be going at it … Continue reading The Legend of Orgasm Control
We’ve talked about integrating D/s and FLR into our daily lives. Sometimes it is hard to find time for long play sessions with other things going on in our lives. Life does have a tendency to interfere with what we want to be doing. Snake and I have certain rituals that we do to reinforce … Continue reading Having fun keeping the horniness alive…
Not in a space alien way (although that finger on E.T. is suspicious), but in a kink-way. Do you ever find yourself people-watching and wonder “hey, I wonder if they do fun kinky stuff?” I find myself wondering this a lot more than I probably should. For us, we’ve had inklings about being a bit … Continue reading Do you ever wonder? Are we alone? (Random Thoughts)
There has been a lot of blogging lately about how subs can be made to feel submissive. Several people have talked about more discipline, several have talked about more verbal commands and Snake made his feelings known last week. There are so many posts on what makes a Domme. If you do x, you aren’t … Continue reading Our Version of Dominance and Submission
There have been a few different posts by other bloggers lately talking about their desire to re-acquire that submissive feelings and attitude they crave. The blogs are extremely popular and are amazing resources. I have HUGE respect for these blogs and mean no ill-intent at all in this post. This is just my take and … Continue reading Submission, and Demanding More From Your Dominant Partner
I know Snake is frustrated about the healing time of his PA. It has been three weeks today and he is mentally raring to go. He wore the Steelheart for a couple of days after it arrived because, after all, it is new and shiny. He also isn’t completely healed, has a larger than necessary ring and … Continue reading The female perspective on life and PAs
One of the things Charmer and I do to help in the communications area is to journal to each other every weekday. We have a private blog that we write posts on to each other. Mine are due by noon and hers include feedback and responses to mine, plus her own thoughts. It’s been an … Continue reading Why Do I Analyze So Much?
Not sure what it is about birthdays and anniversaries that make you stop and take stock. It’s our anniversary time of year and it’s hard to overstate just how much of a year of change this has been. On the personal front, many changes. But on the “lifestyle” front, so many things have started to … Continue reading Of Birthdays and Anniversaries
I was surprised to learn that sub-space is a visible thing – I didn’t realize it until Charmer mentioned it in relation to a picture post she’d found. I thought it was more mental, more in my head. To think that you can see it. Yikes. This whole thing really is a “laid bare” kind … Continue reading Glimpses of Sub-Space
I’m by no means an expert. I look at where I have to go, and where others are, and I’m in awe of their devotion to their partner. I’m Hers, Thumper and several others show just how important, and how hard, it is to be in the right mind set. To be aware of the … Continue reading What I’ve Learned So Far
We’re a married couple, involved in chastity, FLR/M and having fun exploring the world of BDSM, D/s and kink. We actually like each other, enjoy each other’s company and will be talking about his working through understanding the “s” side of things, while she grows in the “D” side of things. We believe in playing … Continue reading About Us