I saw this quote and it just made me laugh because I have THAT memory too.
Continue reading F is for FlashlightYou think you can
hurt my feelings?
I used to hold the
flashlight for my dad.
Category Archives: Life
R is for Real World
I have no idea what the real world is. Yes, we all have to deal with jobs and traffic and taxes and such, but I don’t know if that is really what the real world is about.
Continue reading R is for Real WorldT is for Trust
When I think about the foundation of our dynamic, the first word that comes to mind is trust.
Continue reading T is for TrustE is for Expectations
When I first started thinking about this prompt, all of the quotes talked about making sure you have low expectations to avoid being hurt or disappointed. While that way be true for the “outer world,” I don’t want to live that way within our marriage and dynamic.
Continue reading E is for ExpectationsRealities of Chastity – Suddenly, it is Chafing!
I’ve been doing this chastity thing now for several years – and life happens along the way. I wanted to quickly share something I’ve had to re-learn just recently.
Continue reading Realities of Chastity – Suddenly, it is Chafing!W is for Waves
I love the ocean. Actually, I love watching the ocean, walking along the beach in ankle-deep water, and listening to the ocean. Swimming in it? Not really.
Continue reading W is for WavesSoundtrack of Charmer and Snake
Since I have been with Snake more of my life than without him, picking songs becomes a challenge because there are so many.
Continue reading Soundtrack of Charmer and SnakeWe Miss Traveling
Snake and I tend to take quite a few short trips each year. Several to visit family as well as one or two that are just for us to get time to reconnect.
Continue reading We Miss TravelingExpectation of Service
I am spoiled. Totally admit that. Snake takes care of most of the house chores except cooking and he does that on Saturdays if we are cooking at home. Laundry, cleaning, garbage and lately even grocery shopping.
Continue reading Expectation of ServiceDipping the Toe Back In….
Hey….Yes, I know. We’ve been absent. Life has been crazy here just like with everyone else in the world and we just needed some time to hide and try to figure out any sort of normal.
Continue reading Dipping the Toe Back In….Mothers and Grandmothers
I’ve written about my mother several times, at least here and here. I almost did the really lazy thing–see yesterday’s post–and just linked up one of those for this prompt.
Continue reading Mothers and GrandmothersMyth Busting by Charmer
There are always so many myths surrounding D/s and FLR. So many come from books, TV and movies–they get it wrong so much more often than they get it right.
Continue reading Myth Busting by CharmerBoundaries
Content warning: Deals with current events and 9/11
Boundaries are a struggle for me. I tend to go either too loose or totally tighten them down. I don’t compromise very well with them at all.
Continue reading BoundariesAnniversary Scrabble–The Results
Yes–we did finally finish the game that I started on the 6th…. It ended on Saturday night with my backrub and happy ending.
Continue reading Anniversary Scrabble–The ResultsQuick Scrabble Update
As I mentioned on Twitter, work got crazy right after we got back from Las Vegas so I had to postpone the game for a little bit. It still hasn’t eased up and I don’t see that happening for the near future so I decided that we need the game to carve out a little time for us.
Continue reading Quick Scrabble UpdateRandom Thursday Thoughts From Charmer
I was conducting serious research over what to write today–some might call it scrolling walls and timelines, but I prefer the scholarly view–and found this.
Continue reading Random Thursday Thoughts From CharmerWe Don’t Do Sports, Do We?
I’ve never been the traditional sports person. I know — I’m *so* traditional in all other ways. I did the ballet thing for a year when I was little, twirled a baton for a minute, hiked, tennis with my dad and Tae Kwon Do in high school. Yes, the occasional recital or competition, but nothing really.
Continue reading We Don’t Do Sports, Do We?Anniversary Scrabble
The crowd goes wild. Snake cringes and hopes that I will lose the handy bag of tiles that are stored in a brown paper wine bag from our trip to Sonoma a few years ago.
Continue reading Anniversary ScrabbleThe Importance of Dating
Snake and I have been together for a couple of years now. Just a few. We dated, then we married and had a few date nights here and there. Life gets busy and you figure, “Hey, we see each other all of the time–we don’t need dates.”
Continue reading The Importance of DatingChicken Tortilla Soup
I think I have mentioned a couple of times on Twitter and in the blog that Snake and I have been doing Keto for close to two years. We’ve both lost over 50 pounds and feel a lot better.
Continue reading Chicken Tortilla SoupFriendship
I’ve never had what I considered a lot of friends. I’ve always been more of a few close friends and a lot of people who I like to do things with. They are casual friends but not the ones who would get a call if I needed something.
Continue reading FriendshipHome is Where You Love
When I started to think about writing for this prompt, I knew that my answer to “Is home a Place or Person?” had to be both. At least for me.
Continue reading Home is Where You LoveCharmer’s Thoughts on Balancing Needs
Needs. Wants. How to figure out which is which and even more important, how to balance it all.
I wish I had a good answer on how I do it. I don’t think that I do it all that well at times. I think that I confuse my own wants and needs quite often. I might think it’s a need, but is it? Or do I just want it so much that I think that I need it?
Continue reading Charmer’s Thoughts on Balancing NeedsWhat is Intimacy?
The easy answer is that I know it when I feel it–but it isn’t that easy. It comes in a lot of shapes and sizes, some passing quickly, while others stay for a lifetime. They are all unique and yet…
Continue reading What is Intimacy?Charmer’s Priorities for 2020
Priorities are always a struggle for me. Personal relationship ones are easy. I tend to love spending time with and doing things for the people in my life.
Continue reading Charmer’s Priorities for 2020