Life – Steeled Snake

March 11, 2021

T is for Trust

When I think about the foundation of our dynamic, the first word that comes to mind is trust.

February 23, 2021

When I first started thinking about this prompt, all of the quotes talked about making sure you have low expectations to avoid being hurt or disappointed. While that way be true for the “outer world,” I don’t want to live that way within our marriage and dynamic.

February 16, 2021

Realities of Chastity – Suddenly, it is Chafing!

I’ve been doing this chastity thing now for several years – and life happens along the way. I wanted to quickly share something I’ve had to re-learn just recently.

August 15, 2020

W is for Waves

I love the ocean. Actually, I love watching the ocean, walking along the beach in ankle-deep water, and listening to the ocean. Swimming in it? Not really.

May 21, 2020

Soundtrack of Charmer and Snake

Since I have been with Snake more of my life than without him, picking songs becomes a challenge because there are so many.

May 19, 2020

We Miss Traveling

Snake and I tend to take quite a few short trips each year. Several to visit family as well as one or two that are just for us to get time to reconnect.

May 7, 2020

Expectation of Service

I am spoiled. Totally admit that. Snake takes care of most of the house chores except cooking and he does that on Saturdays if we are cooking at home. Laundry, cleaning, garbage and lately even grocery shopping.

May 4, 2020

Dipping the Toe Back In….

Hey….Yes, I know. We’ve been absent. Life has been crazy here just like with everyone else in the world and we just needed some time to hide and try to figure out any sort of normal.

April 9, 2020

Mothers and Grandmothers

I’ve written about my mother several times, at least here and here. I almost did the really lazy thing–see yesterday’s post–and just linked up one of those for this prompt.

March 31, 2020

Myth Busting by Charmer

There are always so many myths surrounding D/s and FLR. So many come from books, TV and movies–they get it wrong so much more often than they get it right.

March 26, 2020

Boundaries

Content warning: Deals with current events and 9/11

Boundaries are a struggle for me. I tend to go either too loose or totally tighten them down. I don’t compromise very well with them at all.

March 24, 2020

Anniversary Scrabble–The Results

Yes–we did finally finish the game that I started on the 6th…. It ended on Saturday night with my backrub and happy ending.

March 17, 2020

Quick Scrabble Update

As I mentioned on Twitter, work got crazy right after we got back from Las Vegas so I had to postpone the game for a little bit. It still hasn’t eased up and I don’t see that happening for the near future so I decided that we need the game to carve out a little time for us.

March 12, 2020

Random Thursday Thoughts From Charmer

I was conducting serious research over what to write today–some might call it scrolling walls and timelines, but I prefer the scholarly view–and found this.

March 10, 2020

We Don’t Do Sports, Do We?

I’ve never been the traditional sports person. I know — I’m *so* traditional in all other ways. I did the ballet thing for a year when I was little, twirled a baton for a minute, hiked, tennis with my dad and Tae Kwon Do in high school. Yes, the occasional recital or competition, but nothing really.

March 5, 2020

Anniversary Scrabble

The crowd goes wild. Snake cringes and hopes that I will lose the handy bag of tiles that are stored in a brown paper wine bag from our trip to Sonoma a few years ago.

March 3, 2020

The Importance of Dating

Snake and I have been together for a couple of years now. Just a few. We dated, then we married and had a few date nights here and there. Life gets busy and you figure, “Hey, we see each other all of the time–we don’t need dates.”

February 6, 2020

Chicken Tortilla Soup

I think I have mentioned a couple of times on Twitter and in the blog that Snake and I have been doing Keto for close to two years. We’ve both lost over 50 pounds and feel a lot better.

January 23, 2020

Friendship

I’ve never had what I considered a lot of friends. I’ve always been more of a few close friends and a lot of people who I like to do things with. They are casual friends but not the ones who would get a call if I needed something.

January 16, 2020

Home is Where You Love

When I started to think about writing for this prompt, I knew that my answer to “Is home a Place or Person?” had to be both. At least for me.

January 14, 2020

Charmer’s Thoughts on Balancing Needs

Needs. Wants. How to figure out which is which and even more important, how to balance it all.

I wish I had a good answer on how I do it. I don’t think that I do it all that well at times. I think that I confuse my own wants and needs quite often. I might think it’s a need, but is it? Or do I just want it so much that I think that I need it?

January 9, 2020

What is Intimacy?

The easy answer is that I know it when I feel it–but it isn’t that easy. It comes in a lot of shapes and sizes, some passing quickly, while others stay for a lifetime. They are all unique and yet…

January 7, 2020

Charmer’s Priorities for 2020

Priorities are always a struggle for me. Personal relationship ones are easy. I tend to love spending time with and doing things for the people in my life.

December 3, 2019

Defining Charmer

Today has been a day of list making and trying to knock a few things off the list. I have lists for me, lists for Snake, and more lists for work and life. Just as I cross off a few, I always end up adding another to the bottom.

November 26, 2019

Charmer as a Dust Devil

If you don’t live in a hot dry climate, you may never have seen a dust devil. They are like a mini tornado that come out of nowhere, spiraling dirt and other debris into the air and then are gone. Once in a while they cause some damage but usually they are just a nuisance.

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