Since I have been with Snake more of my life than without him, picking songs becomes a challenge because there are so many.
Continue reading “Soundtrack of Charmer and Snake”We Miss Traveling
Snake and I tend to take quite a few short trips each year. Several to visit family as well as one or two that are just for us to get time to reconnect.
Continue reading “We Miss Traveling”Expectation of Service
I am spoiled. Totally admit that. Snake takes care of most of the house chores except cooking and he does that on Saturdays if we are cooking at home. Laundry, cleaning, garbage and lately even grocery shopping.
Continue reading “Expectation of Service”Dipping the Toe Back In….
Hey….Yes, I know. We’ve been absent. Life has been crazy here just like with everyone else in the world and we just needed some time to hide and try to figure out any sort of normal.
Continue reading “Dipping the Toe Back In….”Mothers and Grandmothers
I’ve written about my mother several times, at least here and here. I almost did the really lazy thing–see yesterday’s post–and just linked up one of those for this prompt.
Continue reading “Mothers and Grandmothers”Myth Busting by Charmer
There are always so many myths surrounding D/s and FLR. So many come from books, TV and movies–they get it wrong so much more often than they get it right.
Continue reading “Myth Busting by Charmer”Boundaries
Content warning: Deals with current events and 9/11
Boundaries are a struggle for me. I tend to go either too loose or totally tighten them down. I don’t compromise very well with them at all.
Continue reading “Boundaries”Anniversary Scrabble–The Results
Yes–we did finally finish the game that I started on the 6th…. It ended on Saturday night with my backrub and happy ending.
Continue reading “Anniversary Scrabble–The Results”Quick Scrabble Update
As I mentioned on Twitter, work got crazy right after we got back from Las Vegas so I had to postpone the game for a little bit. It still hasn’t eased up and I don’t see that happening for the near future so I decided that we need the game to carve out a little time for us.
Continue reading “Quick Scrabble Update”Random Thursday Thoughts From Charmer
I was conducting serious research over what to write today–some might call it scrolling walls and timelines, but I prefer the scholarly view–and found this.
Continue reading “Random Thursday Thoughts From Charmer”We Don’t Do Sports, Do We?
I’ve never been the traditional sports person. I know — I’m *so* traditional in all other ways. I did the ballet thing for a year when I was little, twirled a baton for a minute, hiked, tennis with my dad and Tae Kwon Do in high school. Yes, the occasional recital or competition, but nothing really.
Continue reading “We Don’t Do Sports, Do We?”Anniversary Scrabble
The crowd goes wild. Snake cringes and hopes that I will lose the handy bag of tiles that are stored in a brown paper wine bag from our trip to Sonoma a few years ago.
Continue reading “Anniversary Scrabble”The Importance of Dating
Snake and I have been together for a couple of years now. Just a few. We dated, then we married and had a few date nights here and there. Life gets busy and you figure, “Hey, we see each other all of the time–we don’t need dates.”
Continue reading “The Importance of Dating”Chicken Tortilla Soup
I think I have mentioned a couple of times on Twitter and in the blog that Snake and I have been doing Keto for close to two years. We’ve both lost over 50 pounds and feel a lot better.
Continue reading “Chicken Tortilla Soup”Friendship
I’ve never had what I considered a lot of friends. I’ve always been more of a few close friends and a lot of people who I like to do things with. They are casual friends but not the ones who would get a call if I needed something.
Continue reading “Friendship”Home is Where You Love
When I started to think about writing for this prompt, I knew that my answer to “Is home a Place or Person?” had to be both. At least for me.
Continue reading “Home is Where You Love”Charmer’s Thoughts on Balancing Needs
Needs. Wants. How to figure out which is which and even more important, how to balance it all.
I wish I had a good answer on how I do it. I don’t think that I do it all that well at times. I think that I confuse my own wants and needs quite often. I might think it’s a need, but is it? Or do I just want it so much that I think that I need it?
Continue reading “Charmer’s Thoughts on Balancing Needs”What is Intimacy?
The easy answer is that I know it when I feel it–but it isn’t that easy. It comes in a lot of shapes and sizes, some passing quickly, while others stay for a lifetime. They are all unique and yet…
Continue reading “What is Intimacy?”Charmer’s Priorities for 2020
Priorities are always a struggle for me. Personal relationship ones are easy. I tend to love spending time with and doing things for the people in my life.
Continue reading “Charmer’s Priorities for 2020”Defining Charmer
Today has been a day of list making and trying to knock a few things off the list. I have lists for me, lists for Snake, and more lists for work and life. Just as I cross off a few, I always end up adding another to the bottom.
Continue reading “Defining Charmer”Charmer as a Dust Devil
If you don’t live in a hot dry climate, you may never have seen a dust devil. They are like a mini tornado that come out of nowhere, spiraling dirt and other debris into the air and then are gone. Once in a while they cause some damage but usually they are just a nuisance.
Continue reading “Charmer as a Dust Devil”Look… I cleaned the bathrooms…
Sometimes it’s fun to send a surprise image, sometimes it’s fun to see if you can catch people off-guard.
For those that follow along on Twitter, you know Charmer has a great deal of fun sending to places where I have to know I have a message, but may, or may not, be able to actually read/stare at/gawk at in the moment.
Continue reading “Look… I cleaned the bathrooms…”The Secret Life of…Charmer
There are good secrets and bad. The ones that excite you and you don’t want to spoil and the ones that you know are wrong.
Continue reading “The Secret Life of…Charmer”Where Would We Be?
It’s hard for me to look back and see another path because Snake and I always tend to look forward more than back. Yeah, we have the regrets that everyone has, but we try to take what has happened and make something else of it. And realizing that the other path wasn’t really what we wanted anyway.
Continue reading “Where Would We Be?”Traveling
Trying to pick one moment or even series of moments that I would like to revisit is SO hard… so, I’m going to cheat a bit and pick a genre of moments that are always the ones that I go back to in my head.
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