Life – Steeled Snake

March 26, 2020

Boundaries

Content warning: Deals with current events and 9/11

Boundaries are a struggle for me. I tend to go either too loose or totally tighten them down. I don’t compromise very well with them at all.

March 24, 2020

Anniversary Scrabble–The Results

Yes–we did finally finish the game that I started on the 6th…. It ended on Saturday night with my backrub and happy ending.

March 17, 2020

As I mentioned on Twitter, work got crazy right after we got back from Las Vegas so I had to postpone the game for a little bit. It still hasn’t eased up and I don’t see that happening for the near future so I decided that we need the game to carve out a little time for us.

March 12, 2020

Random Thursday Thoughts From Charmer

I was conducting serious research over what to write today–some might call it scrolling walls and timelines, but I prefer the scholarly view–and found this.

March 10, 2020

We Don’t Do Sports, Do We?

I’ve never been the traditional sports person. I know — I’m *so* traditional in all other ways. I did the ballet thing for a year when I was little, twirled a baton for a minute, hiked, tennis with my dad and Tae Kwon Do in high school. Yes, the occasional recital or competition, but nothing really.

March 5, 2020

Anniversary Scrabble

The crowd goes wild. Snake cringes and hopes that I will lose the handy bag of tiles that are stored in a brown paper wine bag from our trip to Sonoma a few years ago.

March 3, 2020

The Importance of Dating

Snake and I have been together for a couple of years now. Just a few. We dated, then we married and had a few date nights here and there. Life gets busy and you figure, “Hey, we see each other all of the time–we don’t need dates.”

February 6, 2020

Chicken Tortilla Soup

I think I have mentioned a couple of times on Twitter and in the blog that Snake and I have been doing Keto for close to two years. We’ve both lost over 50 pounds and feel a lot better.

January 23, 2020

Friendship

I’ve never had what I considered a lot of friends. I’ve always been more of a few close friends and a lot of people who I like to do things with. They are casual friends but not the ones who would get a call if I needed something.

January 16, 2020

Home is Where You Love

When I started to think about writing for this prompt, I knew that my answer to “Is home a Place or Person?” had to be both. At least for me.

January 14, 2020

Charmer’s Thoughts on Balancing Needs

Needs. Wants. How to figure out which is which and even more important, how to balance it all.

I wish I had a good answer on how I do it. I don’t think that I do it all that well at times. I think that I confuse my own wants and needs quite often. I might think it’s a need, but is it? Or do I just want it so much that I think that I need it?

January 9, 2020

What is Intimacy?

The easy answer is that I know it when I feel it–but it isn’t that easy. It comes in a lot of shapes and sizes, some passing quickly, while others stay for a lifetime. They are all unique and yet…

January 7, 2020

Charmer’s Priorities for 2020

Priorities are always a struggle for me. Personal relationship ones are easy. I tend to love spending time with and doing things for the people in my life.

December 3, 2019

Defining Charmer

Today has been a day of list making and trying to knock a few things off the list. I have lists for me, lists for Snake, and more lists for work and life. Just as I cross off a few, I always end up adding another to the bottom.

November 26, 2019

Charmer as a Dust Devil

If you don’t live in a hot dry climate, you may never have seen a dust devil. They are like a mini tornado that come out of nowhere, spiraling dirt and other debris into the air and then are gone. Once in a while they cause some damage but usually they are just a nuisance.

November 14, 2019

Look… I cleaned the bathrooms…

Sometimes it’s fun to send a surprise image, sometimes it’s fun to see if you can catch people off-guard.

For those that follow along on Twitter, you know Charmer has a great deal of fun sending to places where I have to know I have a message, but may, or may not, be able to actually read/stare at/gawk at in the moment.

October 31, 2019

The Secret Life of…Charmer

There are good secrets and bad. The ones that excite you and you don’t want to spoil and the ones that you know are wrong.

October 24, 2019

Where Would We Be?

It’s hard for me to look back and see another path because Snake and I always tend to look forward more than back. Yeah, we have the regrets that everyone has, but we try to take what has happened and make something else of it. And realizing that the other path wasn’t really what we wanted anyway.

October 17, 2019

Traveling

Trying to pick one moment or even series of moments that I would like to revisit is SO hard… so, I’m going to cheat a bit and pick a genre of moments that are always the ones that I go back to in my head.

October 15, 2019

Moonlight

The full moon is above as we head outside, wine glasses in hand.

October 10, 2019

White Rabbit

Yes, this will indeed be more random shit from the wacky brain of Charmer. I was reminded on Facebook that it has been four years since Snake and I danced our awesome routine to White Rabbit. It was a crazy routine and we wore steampunk costumes which were the best. And best of all? My corset stayed up while we did several lifts so my in-laws didn’t die of embarrassment.

October 8, 2019

Desert Philosophy by Charmer

As most of you know, we live in the desert. Not the sand dunes and tumbleweeds kind–well, except for the random crazy ones when we drove to Phoenix once. Our desert is about 2500 feet above sea level and surrounded by mountains so there is a constant variety in our world.

October 6, 2019

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