Yes–we did finally finish the game that I started on the 6th…. It ended on Saturday night with my backrub and happy ending.
Continue reading “Anniversary Scrabble–The Results”Quick Scrabble Update
As I mentioned on Twitter, work got crazy right after we got back from Las Vegas so I had to postpone the game for a little bit. It still hasn’t eased up and I don’t see that happening for the near future so I decided that we need the game to carve out a little time for us.
Continue reading “Quick Scrabble Update”Hand Porn and Chastity Cages
It’s a weird thought that we’re several years into this all now. I can’t believe all that has changed, how much I’ve grown up mentally, how much I’ve learned about me, about us.
Continue reading “Hand Porn and Chastity Cages”Motivation, Chastity and Life
I have said it before – I love the ways that all of this thing we do can be done. Flavors of a theme, different “levels” or activities, different approaches. All of it so finely tuned to what works for you and your partners, it’s pretty cool that there is this assumption that “well, yeah. There’s this thing, but you have to figure out the details for you in what you like.“
Take the good ol’ chastity cage, for example. There’s everything from “rivet that sucker in place” to “we use it for play time” and none is better than any other. It’s what works for you.
Continue reading “Motivation, Chastity and Life”Chastity Cage and a Zipper
The cage is a bizarre thing. It means different things to different people. How cool is that? Different people use it in different ways – it feels different to them mentally and physically than anyone else.
Sure there are similarities. There are root things like bondage and control and all of that. But if you read the blogs, you’ll see, it’s never exactly the same.
Continue reading “Chastity Cage and a Zipper”Rewards and Punishment from the Charmer Side
I admit that when we first started our path through D/s and FLR, rewards and punishment weren’t on the top of my mind. Partly, I think because our relationship had history where Snake tends to do what I like and he rarely fights anything with me unless he feels really strongly about it.
Continue reading “Rewards and Punishment from the Charmer Side”Scavenger Hunt
It starts with a note in your lunch. Check your glove compartment box for the beginning of the quest. Intrigued, you go out and find a magnifying glass and a photo.
Continue reading “Scavenger Hunt”I Need Some (enforced) Peace and Quiet…
She said. I mean, what would YOU think if you were sitting there, watching TV, making sarcastic comments about whatever show is on…
Continue reading “I Need Some (enforced) Peace and Quiet…”This is Us.
My happy place is when things are “on” and she’s physically in control. I love the mental games we play too, but there’s something so nice about the physical control.
Continue reading “This is Us.”Sit back, relax, show me
“This is going to be a little bit of a different approach,” she says, sitting me down in the chair. She kneels on the floor in front of me, then spins slightly to grab a glass of wine off the table and turn back toward me.
I smile, then frown exaggeratedly when I realize the wine is for her, not me. “Silly. This is for me. I’m going to enjoy this.” She sips the wine again, then looks at me. Without breaking the look, she tells me what’s up, finally.
Continue reading “Sit back, relax, show me”Edge For Me
It’s just a normal Sunday night. We’ve done our workouts, had some dinner, watched some TV and now it is bath time. As usual, you start the water, put in the bath bomb, get my water and phone and Kindle and strip naked to wait for me.
Continue reading “Edge For Me”Pain and Pleasure
I’m a techie kind of person. I really like, and even need, to understand the why of how things work. Even me. And one of the things that I really geek out on are these ideas of conflicting … things.
My favorite? Pain and pleasure.
Continue reading “Pain and Pleasure”Moonlight
The full moon is above as we head outside, wine glasses in hand.
Continue reading “Moonlight”Kissing
I had two ideas for this post and I couldn’t decide which way to go. I had the memorable kisses idea and then a day of kisses in our life. So, lucky you, I decided to do both.
Continue reading “Kissing”Time for your collar…
I round the corner to come down the hall and see you standing there. You’re not even looking in my direction. Your right hand? A deep red, leather, paddle.
Continue reading “Time for your collar…”That’s the feeling…
(This is part 2, here’s part 1, important to read first)
See, stuff like this always gets me in trouble, because then I have to continue telling you… the rest of the story, as they say.
My head racing, my body surrendering… that time when you give in to the animal side of things is in full swing. I feel that knowing head-rush, that urgency. It’s delicious.
Continue reading “That’s the feeling…”Core Sub Issues
It’s funny, really. I read the posts about things on the /s/ side of life and they really strike a chord with me. Like this post, by Domina Jen. The post isn’t supposed to be about /s/ types, it’s about Dommes and the responsibilities and coolness associated with that, but there it is again – the weirdness associated with being a Man-sub. (Is that a thing? Ya know, like a man-cub, but… )
Continue reading “Core Sub Issues”Carnal Retreat
We’ve always dreamed of having a vacation away. Like, really away. We’ve cleared calendars. Actually left behind the phones, let everyone know we were traveling to the ends of the earth, so… good luck reaching us. It might not be that remote in reality, but we planned a completely dedicated, carnal time.
Continue reading “Carnal Retreat”From Below… or “the last thing my body may see…”
The prompt for the week is “from below” – and it struck me (pun intended) that really, from below, could be all sorts of fun things.
Continue reading “From Below… or “the last thing my body may see…””It’s Complicated
The morning ritual is pretty typical – getting ready for work, getting out the door, heading in to work. Normal stuff. But it’s never far over the horizon to change things up, to try and make things…. “unusual.”
Continue reading “It’s Complicated”Tell Me About: Collars and Cuffs
I was so excited when I saw this topic because I get to share pictures of my favorite subject: Snake.
[Snake: Sigh.]
Continue reading “Tell Me About: Collars and Cuffs”Real Life and D/s
As I was catching up on blogs after our trip, I happened to catch this post that I had missed. It’s 3 Real Questions People Ask Google About Dominants, Submissives, and D/s by Kayla Lords who I find an awesome blogger.
Continue reading “Real Life and D/s”Tell Me About: The Power Exchange
I try to think back to the very beginning of our relationship and pinpoint a time when there wasn’t a pretty distinct power exchange. I don’t think there was one even long before we knew “what” a power exchange was.
Continue reading “Tell Me About: The Power Exchange”Sometimes, A Reset
It strikes me that this whole thing (this thing that we do, TTTWD) takes a LOT of heavy lifting at times. Sometimes it’s working out details. A lot of times it’s working to keep an open mind (we’re going to do WHAT??!) and other times, it’s being mindful that you’re trying to change your own behaviors along the way.
Continue reading “Sometimes, A Reset”From comment: “What makes you so special?”
We’ve not received the volume of negative comments that others do, for that, I’m not at all unhappy. But we did receive one the other day that actually had me thinking.
In essence, (paraphrased) “What makes you so special? FLR and D/s and these things all of you write about don’t make you better than (me) and I’m sick of reading about it. People without this aren’t less happy, less sexy, less (fill in the blank)… Stop dictating how people should live!”
In essence, SHUT UP ABOUT IT.
Continue reading “From comment: “What makes you so special?””