D/s – Steeled Snake

October 17, 2020

T is For Trick or Treat… Charmer Style

Of course it’s Halloween-time of year – things are finally cooling a tad, and all sorts of excuses for fun and games. Of course Charmer is always one to raise the stakes and have some fun with things, and this is no different.

May 7, 2020

Expectation of Service

I am spoiled. Totally admit that. Snake takes care of most of the house chores except cooking and he does that on Saturdays if we are cooking at home. Laundry, cleaning, garbage and lately even grocery shopping.

May 4, 2020

Dipping the Toe Back In….

Hey….Yes, I know. We’ve been absent. Life has been crazy here just like with everyone else in the world and we just needed some time to hide and try to figure out any sort of normal.

March 31, 2020

Myth Busting by Charmer

There are always so many myths surrounding D/s and FLR. So many come from books, TV and movies–they get it wrong so much more often than they get it right.

March 24, 2020

Anniversary Scrabble–The Results

Yes–we did finally finish the game that I started on the 6th…. It ended on Saturday night with my backrub and happy ending.

March 17, 2020

Quick Scrabble Update

As I mentioned on Twitter, work got crazy right after we got back from Las Vegas so I had to postpone the game for a little bit. It still hasn’t eased up and I don’t see that happening for the near future so I decided that we need the game to carve out a little time for us.

February 11, 2020

Hand Porn and Chastity Cages

It’s a weird thought that we’re several years into this all now. I can’t believe all that has changed, how much I’ve grown up mentally, how much I’ve learned about me, about us.

January 8, 2020

Motivation, Chastity and Life

I have said it before – I love the ways that all of this thing we do can be done. Flavors of a theme, different “levels” or activities, different approaches. All of it so finely tuned to what works for you and your partners, it’s pretty cool that there is this assumption that “well, yeah. There’s this thing, but you have to figure out the details for you in what you like.“

Take the good ol’ chastity cage, for example. There’s everything from “rivet that sucker in place” to “we use it for play time” and none is better than any other. It’s what works for you.

December 12, 2019

Chastity Cage and a Zipper

The cage is a bizarre thing. It means different things to different people. How cool is that? Different people use it in different ways – it feels different to them mentally and physically than anyone else.

Sure there are similarities. There are root things like bondage and control and all of that. But if you read the blogs, you’ll see, it’s never exactly the same.

December 10, 2019

Rewards and Punishment from the Charmer Side

I admit that when we first started our path through D/s and FLR, rewards and punishment weren’t on the top of my mind. Partly, I think because our relationship had history where Snake tends to do what I like and he rarely fights anything with me unless he feels really strongly about it.

November 18, 2019

Scavenger Hunt

It starts with a note in your lunch. Check your glove compartment box for the beginning of the quest. Intrigued, you go out and find a magnifying glass and a photo.

November 17, 2019

I Need Some (enforced) Peace and Quiet…

She said. I mean, what would YOU think if you were sitting there, watching TV, making sarcastic comments about whatever show is on…

November 10, 2019

This is Us.

My happy place is when things are “on” and she’s physically in control. I love the mental games we play too, but there’s something so nice about the physical control.

November 6, 2019

Sit back, relax, show me

“This is going to be a little bit of a different approach,” she says, sitting me down in the chair. She kneels on the floor in front of me, then spins slightly to grab a glass of wine off the table and turn back toward me.

I smile, then frown exaggeratedly when I realize the wine is for her, not me. “Silly. This is for me. I’m going to enjoy this.” She sips the wine again, then looks at me. Without breaking the look, she tells me what’s up, finally.

November 4, 2019

Edge For Me

It’s just a normal Sunday night. We’ve done our workouts, had some dinner, watched some TV and now it is bath time. As usual, you start the water, put in the bath bomb, get my water and phone and Kindle and strip naked to wait for me.

October 23, 2019

Pain and Pleasure

I’m a techie kind of person. I really like, and even need, to understand the why of how things work. Even me. And one of the things that I really geek out on are these ideas of conflicting … things.

My favorite? Pain and pleasure.

October 15, 2019

Moonlight

The full moon is above as we head outside, wine glasses in hand.

October 6, 2019

Kissing

I had two ideas for this post and I couldn’t decide which way to go. I had the memorable kisses idea and then a day of kisses in our life. So, lucky you, I decided to do both.

October 5, 2019

Time for your collar…

I round the corner to come down the hall and see you standing there. You’re not even looking in my direction. Your right hand? A deep red, leather, paddle.

September 4, 2019

That’s the feeling…

(This is part 2, here’s part 1, important to read first)

See, stuff like this always gets me in trouble, because then I have to continue telling you… the rest of the story, as they say.

My head racing, my body surrendering… that time when you give in to the animal side of things is in full swing. I feel that knowing head-rush, that urgency. It’s delicious.

August 28, 2019

Core Sub Issues

It’s funny, really. I read the posts about things on the /s/ side of life and they really strike a chord with me. Like this post, by Domina Jen. The post isn’t supposed to be about /s/ types, it’s about Dommes and the responsibilities and coolness associated with that, but there it is again – the weirdness associated with being a Man-sub. (Is that a thing? Ya know, like a man-cub, but… )

August 7, 2019

Carnal Retreat

We’ve always dreamed of having a vacation away. Like, really away. We’ve cleared calendars. Actually left behind the phones, let everyone know we were traveling to the ends of the earth, so… good luck reaching us. It might not be that remote in reality, but we planned a completely dedicated, carnal time.

August 3, 2019

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