D/s – Steeled Snake

April 6, 2021

M is for Morning Mug

“That’s not the mug I set out for you this morning,” you say as you watch me pour the water for my tea.

March 31, 2021April 1, 2021

I am not really known for my patience. I tend to get frustrated with inanimate objects that don’t cooperate–Snake just silently comes in and takes it usually–and I hate waiting when I can’t see the reasoning for waiting.

March 27, 2021

R is for Results (Scrabble That Is)

The Scrabble game started last Friday and ended on Thursday. In case you missed the tweets, here are the rolls:

March 25, 2021

K is for Kinky

Were we always kinky? Yes, definitely. Were we always kinky the way we are now? Not really.

March 18, 2021

S is for Scrabble

A couple of weeks ago, I posted a poll on Twitter asking about starting a new game. I asked if I should do another Scrabble, Trivial Pursuit, CAH or a new game. While the poll results did appear to be tied at 35.3% for both a new one and Scrabble, they were skewed by a mistaken vote for Trivial Pursuit that I was asked to change.

March 11, 2021

T is for Trust

When I think about the foundation of our dynamic, the first word that comes to mind is trust.

March 9, 2021March 9, 2021

C is for (Steeled Snake) Charmer

I don’t know if we have ever told the stories about our pen names, to be honest. The names actually came before we started the blog because we needed Twitter handles.

March 4, 2021March 4, 2021

D is for Denial… Torture

“I need you, inside me, now. “

I was high as a kite hearing that. It was early in the morning, we had the house to ourselves, she has THAT look in her eyes. I’m raging against the cage, needing to feel her, wanting to feel her.

“Unlock. Get back here.”

February 25, 2021February 25, 2021

C is for Chastity: That Overnight Pressure

MMMmmmmmm… She says in her sleep… I think.

February 23, 2021

E is for Expectations

When I first started thinking about this prompt, all of the quotes talked about making sure you have low expectations to avoid being hurt or disappointed. While that way be true for the “outer world,” I don’t want to live that way within our marriage and dynamic.

February 22, 2021

P is For (Her) Prey

It’s strange how quickly a scene can change, and how it can be physically, mentally, or both.

But it sure does.

February 6, 2021

/s Headspace

Headspace is a weird thing for me. When I saw the prompt, I thought about how that all comes into play when, well, when we play. I immediately went to “Sub-space” – but I am learning that there is actually more to it than that.

October 17, 2020

T is For Trick or Treat… Charmer Style

Of course it’s Halloween-time of year – things are finally cooling a tad, and all sorts of excuses for fun and games. Of course Charmer is always one to raise the stakes and have some fun with things, and this is no different.

May 7, 2020

Expectation of Service

I am spoiled. Totally admit that. Snake takes care of most of the house chores except cooking and he does that on Saturdays if we are cooking at home. Laundry, cleaning, garbage and lately even grocery shopping.

May 4, 2020

Dipping the Toe Back In….

Hey….Yes, I know. We’ve been absent. Life has been crazy here just like with everyone else in the world and we just needed some time to hide and try to figure out any sort of normal.

March 31, 2020

Myth Busting by Charmer

There are always so many myths surrounding D/s and FLR. So many come from books, TV and movies–they get it wrong so much more often than they get it right.

March 24, 2020

Anniversary Scrabble–The Results

Yes–we did finally finish the game that I started on the 6th…. It ended on Saturday night with my backrub and happy ending.

March 17, 2020

Quick Scrabble Update

As I mentioned on Twitter, work got crazy right after we got back from Las Vegas so I had to postpone the game for a little bit. It still hasn’t eased up and I don’t see that happening for the near future so I decided that we need the game to carve out a little time for us.

February 11, 2020

Hand Porn and Chastity Cages

It’s a weird thought that we’re several years into this all now. I can’t believe all that has changed, how much I’ve grown up mentally, how much I’ve learned about me, about us.

January 8, 2020

Motivation, Chastity and Life

I have said it before – I love the ways that all of this thing we do can be done. Flavors of a theme, different “levels” or activities, different approaches. All of it so finely tuned to what works for you and your partners, it’s pretty cool that there is this assumption that “well, yeah. There’s this thing, but you have to figure out the details for you in what you like.“

Take the good ol’ chastity cage, for example. There’s everything from “rivet that sucker in place” to “we use it for play time” and none is better than any other. It’s what works for you.

December 12, 2019

Chastity Cage and a Zipper

The cage is a bizarre thing. It means different things to different people. How cool is that? Different people use it in different ways – it feels different to them mentally and physically than anyone else.

Sure there are similarities. There are root things like bondage and control and all of that. But if you read the blogs, you’ll see, it’s never exactly the same.

December 10, 2019

Rewards and Punishment from the Charmer Side

I admit that when we first started our path through D/s and FLR, rewards and punishment weren’t on the top of my mind. Partly, I think because our relationship had history where Snake tends to do what I like and he rarely fights anything with me unless he feels really strongly about it.

November 18, 2019

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