Curiosity in this thing we do… is dangerous. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve made a passing comment about “did you see that thing on that blog?” – I don’t often mean it as more than a “huh, that’s different…” and yet quite often, I’ll get a message back that simply states…
“Get it please.”
Continue reading Curious… as a cat
I’ve been going through a longer-term review of a few chastity cages in hopes of providing some additional information about cages, differences between them, food for thought, etc. HolyTrainer is the first of these – and I’ve spent a good deal of time wearing, comparing, and looking at the device.
Continue reading HolyTrainer v4 Chastity Cage – A Review
I’m in the middle of reviewing a couple of really great devices, but I’ve learned something surprising in the process that’s pretty important when it comes to sizing, figuring out considerations, etc.
Continue reading Chastity Device: A-Ring Sizing Lessons Learned
Charmer has been experimenting. Again.
Edging is one of those things that fit in the “frustration, but hella fun” category. It’s bizarre, difficult to manage at times, and overall, it’s a very demanding thing (don’t you feel sorry for me? )
Continue reading To the Edge and Back… and Back Again
Looking back at October, and at chastity in general, it’s bizarre to think it’s been something like 6+ years of full-time for Charmer and me. We’ve learned a lot, we’ve had some interesting debates (both with us and from outside folks) and we’ve seen this kinky twitter and blogging space roll back and forth as different things sweep through, chastity being one of them.
Continue reading Locktober… and Chastity Overall
Locktober is a way for us to have a little fun with something that isn’t just a once a year thing.
Continue reading L is for Lock(tober)
Rule is that the cage is on…but it’s cleaning day.
Continue reading C is for Cleaning Day
Our blog is almost exactly 6 1/2 years old. It’s been a journey of D/s and photography with a lot of laughter and games thrown in the mix.
Continue reading S is for Steeled Snake
It’s important to be well-dressed when you head out to work, yes?
I mean, proper shirt, all of that.
Continue reading T is for Tails
Snake wrote the other day about 100 edges. We had been doing a boot camp weekend which we do from time to time and he had been doing a really good job of anticipating and following directions.
Continue reading E is for Edgy
“Get undressed and unlock.” She had “that look.”
Continue reading R is for Remote
Just as I send pictures to Snake each morning, he sends at least one a day to me as well. I say at least because there are days when he is is tasked with sending a lot more than one. Sometimes just because and sometimes they are proof if he has a specific task to do.
Continue reading Z is for Zipper
Chastity has been a really interesting physical and thought experiment run with me. We’re now into this full-time since 2015 – this grand process of FLR, D/s and the chastity cage. I never really anticipated what it would be like, the impact it might have and the cool learning it’s lead to.
Continue reading C is for Chastity Cages and D/s
Improvement is a tough one. It’s hard to talk about improving something with this thing we do, without making it all mechanical and such. At least, for me that’s the case.
At the same time, it can be really effective over time – you may look back in the future at how, why or when you did “this or that” and realize just how much things have changed. Here’s a quick look at how I try to keep this all swimming around my head.
Continue reading Improvement (not as in home-improvement)
We do have a pretty substantial orgasm gap in our relationship. The unusual part is that our gap is definitely in my favor.
Continue reading G is for Gap
Influence is a weird beast to consider. When you think about those that have an impact on your life, it’s all over the board. The good, the bad, the bad-at-the-time-but-good-looking-back-on-it ones.
Continue reading S is for Surprising Influence
“That’s not the mug I set out for you this morning,” you say as you watch me pour the water for my tea.
Continue reading M is for Morning Mug
The Scrabble game started last Friday and ended on Thursday. In case you missed the tweets, here are the rolls:
Continue reading R is for Results (Scrabble That Is)
She’s always loved the irrational modifiers that she dreams up to apply to games. Scrabble being a favorite; it’s this weird mix of “you have to make these odd words” or “this many words with more than “X” letters…” or “Whoops… sorrrrrrry THAT didn’t work out as planned.
Continue reading I is for It’s Not Fair
A couple of weeks ago, I posted a poll on Twitter asking about starting a new game. I asked if I should do another Scrabble, Trivial Pursuit, CAH or a new game. While the poll results did appear to be tied at 35.3% for both a new one and Scrabble, they were skewed by a mistaken vote for Trivial Pursuit that I was asked to change.
Continue reading S is for Scrabble
I don’t know if we have ever told the stories about our pen names, to be honest. The names actually came before we started the blog because we needed Twitter handles.
Continue reading C is for (Steeled Snake) Charmer
“I need you, inside me, now. “
I was high as a kite hearing that. It was early in the morning, we had the house to ourselves, she has THAT look in her eyes. I’m raging against the cage, needing to feel her, wanting to feel her.
“Unlock. Get back here.”
Continue reading D is for Denial… Torture
I’ve been doing this chastity thing now for several years – and life happens along the way. I wanted to quickly share something I’ve had to re-learn just recently.
Continue reading Realities of Chastity – Suddenly, it is Chafing!
As a Domme, I am all about discipline. We have rules and expectations that are clear and pretty straightforward. Exceptions, of course, for life but for the most part, our D/s life runs smoothly.
Continue reading D is for Discipline