Those of you with extended families might understand the rules for watching TV series–there are some that you can only watch when all of you are there. You can’t cheat and watch ahead even if there is nothing else to watch.
Continue reading “A is for Alone (Together)”A is for Arizona
The first thing that we always get when people learn that we live in the desert Southwest is “But how do you survive it being so hot?” Followed by the assumption that we live in a kitty litter box.
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I tend to be nitpicky. I tend to be obsessive. I’m quick to anger. I am stubborn. I hate criticism. I’m sure Snake could help with other traits that aren’t coming to mind.
Continue reading “Strengths and Weaknesses”Is it Fate?
I have never had a good relationship with the idea of fate or destiny or whatever your word of choice is.
Soundtrack of Charmer and Snake
Since I have been with Snake more of my life than without him, picking songs becomes a challenge because there are so many.
Continue reading “Soundtrack of Charmer and Snake”We Miss Traveling
Snake and I tend to take quite a few short trips each year. Several to visit family as well as one or two that are just for us to get time to reconnect.
Continue reading “We Miss Traveling”Charmer’s Take on Only the Good Die Young
I admit that this was the first song that I thought to write about with this prompt. And then I tried to think of another because it was one of my first anthems and I figured that I must have moved past that by now. And started spinning and asked Snake what song told about me and guess what he said? Yup.
Continue reading “Charmer’s Take on Only the Good Die Young”Dipping the Toe Back In….
Hey….Yes, I know. We’ve been absent. Life has been crazy here just like with everyone else in the world and we just needed some time to hide and try to figure out any sort of normal.
Continue reading “Dipping the Toe Back In….”Mothers and Grandmothers
I’ve written about my mother several times, at least here and here. I almost did the really lazy thing–see yesterday’s post–and just linked up one of those for this prompt.
Continue reading “Mothers and Grandmothers”Blogging and Writer’s Block
The past few weeks have definitely been a challenge with writing. I’m not an inspired writer without something to play off to begin with and the inability to do my “normal” messes with my head.
Continue reading “Blogging and Writer’s Block”Anniversary Scrabble–The Results
Yes–we did finally finish the game that I started on the 6th…. It ended on Saturday night with my backrub and happy ending.
Continue reading “Anniversary Scrabble–The Results”Holding On
Like most of the rest of the world, we are struggling to find a new normal for the time being. It definitely makes it harder to blog about sexy stuff when everything is so scary around us.
Continue reading “Holding On”Quick Scrabble Update
As I mentioned on Twitter, work got crazy right after we got back from Las Vegas so I had to postpone the game for a little bit. It still hasn’t eased up and I don’t see that happening for the near future so I decided that we need the game to carve out a little time for us.
Continue reading “Quick Scrabble Update”Random Thursday Thoughts From Charmer
I was conducting serious research over what to write today–some might call it scrolling walls and timelines, but I prefer the scholarly view–and found this.
Continue reading “Random Thursday Thoughts From Charmer”We Don’t Do Sports, Do We?
I’ve never been the traditional sports person. I know — I’m *so* traditional in all other ways. I did the ballet thing for a year when I was little, twirled a baton for a minute, hiked, tennis with my dad and Tae Kwon Do in high school. Yes, the occasional recital or competition, but nothing really.
Continue reading “We Don’t Do Sports, Do We?”Anniversary Scrabble
The crowd goes wild. Snake cringes and hopes that I will lose the handy bag of tiles that are stored in a brown paper wine bag from our trip to Sonoma a few years ago.
Continue reading “Anniversary Scrabble”The Importance of Dating
Snake and I have been together for a couple of years now. Just a few. We dated, then we married and had a few date nights here and there. Life gets busy and you figure, “Hey, we see each other all of the time–we don’t need dates.”
Continue reading “The Importance of Dating”Charmer’s Take on Privacy
Privacy has so many meanings. Having doors to keep others out when we need a little time alone. Journals or diaries where we want to keep our private thoughts. Knowing that your phone is not being read over your shoulder. Respecting online personas. And on and on.
Continue reading “Charmer’s Take on Privacy”Shutting Up the Inner Voice
When I thought about what to write about my inner voice, I started searching quotes for something that would inspire me. There were so many that talked about always listening to that voice, how it was your true self and that it was more important than listening to others.
Continue reading “Shutting Up the Inner Voice”Friendship
I’ve never had what I considered a lot of friends. I’ve always been more of a few close friends and a lot of people who I like to do things with. They are casual friends but not the ones who would get a call if I needed something.
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When I started to think about writing for this prompt, I knew that my answer to “Is home a Place or Person?” had to be both. At least for me.
Continue reading “Home is Where You Love”Charmer’s Thoughts on Balancing Needs
Needs. Wants. How to figure out which is which and even more important, how to balance it all.
I wish I had a good answer on how I do it. I don’t think that I do it all that well at times. I think that I confuse my own wants and needs quite often. I might think it’s a need, but is it? Or do I just want it so much that I think that I need it?
Continue reading “Charmer’s Thoughts on Balancing Needs”Charmer’s Priorities for 2020
Priorities are always a struggle for me. Personal relationship ones are easy. I tend to love spending time with and doing things for the people in my life.
Continue reading “Charmer’s Priorities for 2020”Bawdy Bells 5 — Lies?
The Christmas piece of this prompt never really applied to me. Yes, we put out cookies and milk for Santa and got a gift on Christmas morning. And, yes, I was told when I questioned if he was “real,” that only kids who believe got gifts from him. But, it was always more of an embodiment of the magic of Christmas rather than a person so it never felt deceitful to me.
Continue reading “Bawdy Bells 5 — Lies?”Rewards and Punishment from the Charmer Side
I admit that when we first started our path through D/s and FLR, rewards and punishment weren’t on the top of my mind. Partly, I think because our relationship had history where Snake tends to do what I like and he rarely fights anything with me unless he feels really strongly about it.
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