Sometimes, it’s great to re-inject some new energy, some new rules, and some new unknowns into a relationship. Sometimes, it’s time for a sort of “BootCamp” – where you need to be more strict on key items, more active in some.
As we climb into bed for the night, you roll over and I hear you whispering. I can’t make it out, not quite, so I ask you what you said. You repeat it, still whispering.
Continue reading Sunrise, Sunset Bootcamp (1)He slid in behind her as she stood at the stove, making that sauce that was to die for. Wrapping his arms around her waist and pulling her close to him, slightly back from the stove, he smelled her hair first, then her neck.
“Mmmmmm, smells so gooooooood!”
Continue reading Spices are the stuff of life“Please? Can you come help me get home? The stupid car broke down, I got it towed to the shop, but will be walking home the rest of the way.”
“Of course, I’ll be there in a few….” I say, grabbing my things.
Continue reading Thumbing … a rideCuriosity in this thing we do… is dangerous. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve made a passing comment about “did you see that thing on that blog?” – I don’t often mean it as more than a “huh, that’s different…” and yet quite often, I’ll get a message back that simply states…
“Get it please.”
Continue reading Curious… as a catThere are those times in your life when the world flips on its head, spins you around and pretty much bitch slaps you. I know, I know. We’ve all been there.
Continue reading L is for Lean on MeI’m breathing in these quick, short breaths now. My insides are twitching. My body is starting to shudder.
Continue reading (Don’t) Open Your Eyes…It’s date night, and you are wearing a gorgeous sweater, an amazing skirt – it seems like an odd combination, but it sure does work. I’m a #luckydude for sure.
Continue reading S is for Striptease….I’ve been going through a longer-term review of a few chastity cages in hopes of providing some additional information about cages, differences between them, food for thought, etc. HolyTrainer is the first of these – and I’ve spent a good deal of time wearing, comparing, and looking at the device.
Continue reading HolyTrainer v4 Chastity Cage – A ReviewIt’s my turn to make dinner, I get to dream up something to make, get everything around and get it done while you take a bath, complete, of course, with a glass of wine. Or two.
Continue reading The ApronYou fire up that yoga channel on YouTube – the one you’ve been following religiously now for quite some time. It’s a daily thing, I’m jealous – and at the same time, so very impressed because I can SEE the changes in you. Physically, mentally.
Continue reading Absolutely Not Now, It’s Time for YogaThey say idle hands are the devil’s playground. Or something like that.
She’d never really believed in that, but this might be a good jumping-off point in the conversation about to be had.
She slipped off her clothes and dipped her toes in the water to make sure the temperature was what she needed. “A bit cooler please,” she said and stood up just a bit to let him fix the temperature and stir the water in the tub. “There,” he says, offering her his hand to help her into the tub. “See if that’s better.”
Continue reading Busy HandsIt’s one of those amazing desert nights. The temperature is perfect, the wind is just this very slight breeze, the desert smells because of all of the blooms and plants that are soaking up the recent rains are just incredible. We’re sitting in the pool, just enjoying a glass of wine, talking, and watching the bats fly around, getting their early-evening feast.
“There’s one!” you whisper, and point to the west – I can just make him out against the incredible orange skies as the sun settles in and the last bits of color leave the sky.
Continue reading Enjoying the Pool…I’m in the middle of reviewing a couple of really great devices, but I’ve learned something surprising in the process that’s pretty important when it comes to sizing, figuring out considerations, etc.
Continue reading Chastity Device: A-Ring Sizing Lessons LearnedWe finally scored a great table on the ship – right on the railing, all by ourselves, just taking time to relax and enjoy our dinner. It was a long day on the water, and the sunset is just the perfect end to the day.
We’ve been enjoying a glass or two of wine this evening, waiting for our table, and then sitting here, we have that perfect blend of attentive, but not around, service. It’s really great.
Continue reading Slippery Little Devil: The One That Got AwayI finally gave in. I’ve had enough. I bought one of those silly Mute buttons you see for online calls – where you push the button, you’re muted, no matter what software you have, it figures it out and even lights up to say “hey, nobody can hear you…” I’ve had my fill of online calls and video calls.
Continue reading It’s Not Like It’s a Video Call…Sometimes, it’s all about the smallest things.
Those things that say when someone really has their guard down, is totally in the moment and completely… relaxed. Well, I don’t know about totally relaxed, but she does have a tell.
Continue reading The Strangest, Sexiest Idiosyncracies – Singing AlongI’ve been reading along with different people’s thoughts and ideas for 2022. Not necessarily resolutions, but just sort of setting the stage for how to approach the new year. I’m not sure why people do this at the end of the year (why not July 1?) or whatever, but here I am, doing the same, and feeling like it’s time for a different approach, right along with so many others.
Continue reading Choosing My/Our 2022We have strict rules about O’s for me. Permission first. I guess I should say, a strict rule. That’s it, that’s the rule.
For 5 years in this D/sFLR, I’ve actually done really well and haven’t screwed up yet. Yes, she’s been known to force the issue when she feels like it and override my not letting things get too far, taking it from me, as it were. But just flat out getting it wrong? I’ve always been pretty proud about not crossing the proverbial line in the sand.
Continue reading It Finally Happened… I Lost ItIt’s been a long, long day at work. We decided to head out and get some dinner, relax a little and try to unplug from the garbage that had gone down.
Dinner was good, the glass of wine was better.
As we head home, we decide to take the scenic route – through the foothills, through the more back-roads ways back to the house. We’re talking bout anything, and nothing. And we’re certainly not talking about work.
Continue reading Swinging…It’s always the same, always looking for the tape, the ribbon, the scissors. It seems like no matter where you put them, she has moved them just a bit out of reach. It’s almost a game to re-find them between packages.
We’re wrapping and sipping and enjoying the fire and this strangely relaxed evening of package prep, getting ready for the holidays and family and all that.
I *hate* wrapping. I’m not good at it, and she’s always responsible for making the packages look passable once they’re beyond “but they have paper on them now anyway” stage. Ribbons? Bows? Frilly decoration-thingies? Forget it.
But, of course, you DO know how to incentivize. “For every package you wrap, we’ll play strip-wrapping – I’ll remove one piece of clothing of my choice.” This. This has me fully engaged in this process, I must admit.
Continue reading Hand me that tape…We turn over the in bed and she snuggles into me. It’s a lazy morning, she’s fiddling with my cage, or at least as much as she can. I mean, it’s morning. And the cage is much, much less mobile than many other times right at the moment.
I growl as I come awake, and grin at her. Her head is on my chest, she’s looking at me and squeezing… just so. It feels amazing and aggravating.
It’s been a loooooooooong run. And she’s been doing everything from edging marathons to other types of play and it’s piling on a bit. I’m at that tipping point between aggravation and frustration of the good kind.
Continue reading How Fast…A decidedly non-sexy post, but certainly have learned a lot on that front as well.
2021 has been brutal, awful, intense, crazy, wild, all of those things, up and down, for so many people. It’s hard to over-state the impact this time has had of course, and we certainly didn’t escape the roller-coaster either. From the societal changes to the loss of loved ones to changing relationships with friends and family and so much more.
Continue reading What 2021 Has Taught MeCharmer has been experimenting. Again.
Edging is one of those things that fit in the “frustration, but hella fun” category. It’s bizarre, difficult to manage at times, and overall, it’s a very demanding thing (don’t you feel sorry for me? )
Continue reading To the Edge and Back… and Back AgainIt’s bizarre to look back at the time with This Thing We Do (TTWD). It’s been a handful of years now (my own 7r Twitter-versary came up) and I was going back through our posts and journals to each other. But also, it’s been about changing as we go forward.
Continue reading L is for Life Lessons – Always Changing“Here you go…” she says, handing me a dice. The 4-sided die rattles around in my hand. I was just sitting here passing the time on one of our favorite shows and she walks in and hands me this.
“What’s up,” I ask. Not knowing if I really want to know. The answer on gaming stuff like this is usually some strange setup that puts me at a, well, disadvantage, to put it lightly.
Continue reading The Fantasy Quota