FLR, D/s, Life and Kink
Sometimes, it’s all about the smallest things.
Those things that say when someone really has their guard down, is totally in the moment and completely… relaxed. Well, I don’t know about totally relaxed, but she does have a tell.
Continue reading “The Strangest, Sexiest Idiosyncracies – Singing Along”I’ve been reading along with different people’s thoughts and ideas for 2022. Not necessarily resolutions, but just sort of setting the stage for how to approach the new year. I’m not sure why people do this at the end of the year (why not July 1?) or whatever, but here I am, doing the same, and feeling like it’s time for a different approach, right along with so many others.
Continue reading “Choosing My/Our 2022”We have strict rules about O’s for me. Permission first. I guess I should say, a strict rule. That’s it, that’s the rule.
For 5 years in this D/sFLR, I’ve actually done really well and haven’t screwed up yet. Yes, she’s been known to force the issue when she feels like it and override my not letting things get too far, taking it from me, as it were. But just flat out getting it wrong? I’ve always been pretty proud about not crossing the proverbial line in the sand.
Continue reading “It Finally Happened… I Lost It”It’s been a long, long day at work. We decided to head out and get some dinner, relax a little and try to unplug from the garbage that had gone down.
Dinner was good, the glass of wine was better.
As we head home, we decide to take the scenic route – through the foothills, through the more back-roads ways back to the house. We’re talking bout anything, and nothing. And we’re certainly not talking about work.
Continue reading “Swinging…”It’s always the same, always looking for the tape, the ribbon, the scissors. It seems like no matter where you put them, she has moved them just a bit out of reach. It’s almost a game to re-find them between packages.
We’re wrapping and sipping and enjoying the fire and this strangely relaxed evening of package prep, getting ready for the holidays and family and all that.
I *hate* wrapping. I’m not good at it, and she’s always responsible for making the packages look passable once they’re beyond “but they have paper on them now anyway” stage. Ribbons? Bows? Frilly decoration-thingies? Forget it.
But, of course, you DO know how to incentivize. “For every package you wrap, we’ll play strip-wrapping – I’ll remove one piece of clothing of my choice.” This. This has me fully engaged in this process, I must admit.
Continue reading “Hand me that tape…”We turn over the in bed and she snuggles into me. It’s a lazy morning, she’s fiddling with my cage, or at least as much as she can. I mean, it’s morning. And the cage is much, much less mobile than many other times right at the moment.
I growl as I come awake, and grin at her. Her head is on my chest, she’s looking at me and squeezing… just so. It feels amazing and aggravating.
It’s been a loooooooooong run. And she’s been doing everything from edging marathons to other types of play and it’s piling on a bit. I’m at that tipping point between aggravation and frustration of the good kind.
Continue reading “How Fast…”A decidedly non-sexy post, but certainly have learned a lot on that front as well.
2021 has been brutal, awful, intense, crazy, wild, all of those things, up and down, for so many people. It’s hard to over-state the impact this time has had of course, and we certainly didn’t escape the roller-coaster either. From the societal changes to the loss of loved ones to changing relationships with friends and family and so much more.
Continue reading “What 2021 Has Taught Me”Charmer has been experimenting. Again.
Edging is one of those things that fit in the “frustration, but hella fun” category. It’s bizarre, difficult to manage at times, and overall, it’s a very demanding thing (don’t you feel sorry for me? )
Continue reading “To the Edge and Back… and Back Again”It’s bizarre to look back at the time with This Thing We Do (TTWD). It’s been a handful of years now (my own 7r Twitter-versary came up) and I was going back through our posts and journals to each other. But also, it’s been about changing as we go forward.
Continue reading “L is for Life Lessons – Always Changing”“Here you go…” she says, handing me a dice. The 4-sided die rattles around in my hand. I was just sitting here passing the time on one of our favorite shows and she walks in and hands me this.
“What’s up,” I ask. Not knowing if I really want to know. The answer on gaming stuff like this is usually some strange setup that puts me at a, well, disadvantage, to put it lightly.
Continue reading “The Fantasy Quota”The subject for this month’s meme here in the Snake Den has been rebirth. At the same time, Charmer and I just returned from a “let’s get out of here” trip to the Northeast. I know she’s been writing about it – and it was a great time.
Continue reading “Rebirth – and Vacations”She spins around, kissing me.
The show was great, we had a really nice dinner out, it’s been a great evening of just relaxing and taking in the sights.
She pulls my lip between her teeth and I hiss at the surprise, at the pinch. She holds it her mouth curling into a devious smile.
Continue reading “Short… to answer the question”Looking back at October, and at chastity in general, it’s bizarre to think it’s been something like 6+ years of full-time for Charmer and me. We’ve learned a lot, we’ve had some interesting debates (both with us and from outside folks) and we’ve seen this kinky twitter and blogging space roll back and forth as different things sweep through, chastity being one of them.
Continue reading “Locktober… and Chastity Overall”We’ve seen this around from time to time, a vibrator that has the “sucker” action. But this one is different. It has both a vibrating portion and a suction-oriented end. It’s also waterproof, a big plus.
Continue reading “Review: Rose Vibrator”See, one of the things about kink is that it opens up your mind. It opens the thoughts of “if that was great, what about “X”” – it’s an ongoing cycle that drives kink forward and gets you to consider all sorts of things… I mean, what if…
That’s exactly the thing that is happening right now. What if the impact play is, well, played with. What if it’s more, different, etc. Not in a “beat the crap out of me” standpoint, I’m not really interested, and she’s not really interested in dealing out, the art of being a butt-fillet. But…
Continue reading “Always More, Eh?”It’s (finally) Fall and the pumpkins and their kin are all over the place now. If you haven’t yet got your pumpkin(s) and plan to, now’s the time.
Continue reading “Happy Fall Season…Indeed”As you pull in from a long day out working and just flat-out getting stuff done, you slowly walk to the door and fumble around with the key. I open it from the inside for you and hold my hand out – helping you across the threshold. “Well, hello, stranger… ” you say as you step in.
Just inside the door I have a blanket, folded up and on top of a big picnic basket.
“What’s this,” you ask, “are we going somewhere?”
Continue reading “Moonlight Picnic”The rains around the desert have been intense this year, bringing much-needed relief from a pretty nasty drought. The result?
Huge growth spurts in all of the plant life.
I saw this amazing plant and thought I’d share.
Continue reading “Nice… Plant!”It’s important to be well-dressed when you head out to work, yes?
I mean, proper shirt, all of that.
Continue reading “T is for Tails”When summer really sets in around here, we tend to do one of two things. First, stay inside, in the A/C whenever possible. It’s just a sanity thing because it just gets ridiculous out there.
Continue reading “Heat is On – Bring On The Outdoors”This was to be a DD play night. But something is up. Something is whirling around in that head of hers that says it won’t “just” be a DD kind of night, but rather something else that is poking around.
“Remember when we were kids and made handprints in the sand,” she asks. “Yes, yes I do… but that’s sort of random, don’t you think?”
Continue reading “It’s Just a Little Handprint”I’m sitting here, working, doing the things that I think I need to get done.
I’m deep into this stupid spreadsheet. Reviewing, editing, cursing at it, just in general getting really annoyed and more and more dragged into this thing. In you walk.
Continue reading “Just because… lacey.”Charmer likes to push boundaries, heck, we both do. I think little nudges in new directions tend to add up to big nudges that introduce new ideas, new things to think about, new experiences.
We’ve added Boot Camp weekends to the mix of late – we do them when it strikes Charmer’s fancy, no real schedule- but it has lately been running Friday-Monday on choice weekends.
Continue reading “100 Edges, 12ish hours.”Chastity has been a really interesting physical and thought experiment run with me. We’re now into this full-time since 2015 – this grand process of FLR, D/s and the chastity cage. I never really anticipated what it would be like, the impact it might have and the cool learning it’s lead to.
Continue reading “C is for Chastity Cages and D/s”She always laughs at me and sometimes accommodates me. I’ve sat and watched exercises, stolen stares when something simply must be picked up, and even been known to walk a bit behind (pardon the pun) at times.
Continue reading “B… is for bootay”