There are many aspects of This Thing We Do (TTWD) that *seem* really mental or *seem* really physical. But so many times, it ends up being both.
For me, that’s the case with impact play. Honestly, I went into it thinking it was a mental “game” – just dealing with it and that I could get past it. But the physical side of things surprises me every. single. time.
I’m “in training” I suppose – I’ve had times where we warm up and I feel pretty good about my control and response and even love it. But then the times that come with no warm-up… not my favorite thing. I’m still working on those times.
This is one of those times. I feel like I’m slowly getting better, but then I slide backwards sometimes.
And that damn wooden spoon. I hope it burns in hell some day. Mostly because it burns LIKE hell when it’s used on me. I was thankful this wasn’t one of those times.
Still, after not so many smacks, and working to stay put (and get back to the right place), things were pretty rosy.
Mine either.
But that doesn’t stop me from dishing it out that way. 😉 😛
Why am I not surprised!? 🙂
Depends on play vs. correction. Sigh.
Lovely! The effort is the key, I think.
Being spanked hard with no warmup is a difficult experience that I crave and treasure. (Try it 2 minutes after an orgasm for extra … value.)
I find that pacing can very much alter how well I can handle it–going slowly and pausing actually makes it worse for me. When it’s swift and relentless, I can surrender to it more easily, though of course it stings a bit.
Speaking of “stings a bit” my *favorite* wooden spoon is an olive wood number we got at Sur La Table. Dunno whether it’s shape (it’s more spatula than spoon, but does have a slight curve) or wood or finish, but it’s significantly stingier than other spoons.
Yes, pacing definitely matters. I don’t know that I crave and treasure no warmup, but I do those with warmup, but it’s a lot of effort (for her) to get there (for me), I know.
This spoon is a round spoon with probably a 12″ handle on it. Don’t really know why, but the difference is stark. I still think her favorite implement is the crop.
It probably is…although the spoon and my favorite paddle run close seconds. 🙂
I wrestle with the same thing. I know I have to learn to lie still and take it, but often I can’t. I agree with Charmer that pacing is the key. When Mrs. Lion’s pace is a bit slower, I am much better at accepting the punishment. We have a big, heavy wooden spoon too, but it isn’t her favorite. She likes more traditional paddles. There is never a warmup for punishment.
Could someone kindly explain what an impact game is please? When I have sex with my lover he sometimes uses a table tennis bat that stings
I think “Impact game” is just a different word for “impact play.” By Impact Play I mean things like spanking or flogging or those types of things. Things that are based in spanking but have different tools you use. It could be a wooden spoon or a wooden paddle or a flogger or a strap or cat-o-nine tails or a crop, etc. All of those really fall under “impact play.”
So, if you’ve played with a table tennis paddle, it’s the same thing. That sting, the mix of pain/pleasure, etc. That’s what it’s referring to when you see that phrase or term, “Impact play.”
I hope that helps!
Oh that does, thank you so much, the mixture of pain and pleasure is something newly discovered but funnily greatly enjoyed