Our dynamic has changed over the years with D/s leading the way. One of the times that really reinforces that dynamic are the massages we’ve written about previously – it’s a fantastic, intimate, fun, relaxing time that we use to reconnect many nights a week.
With no strings attached.
We agreed on the no-strings things (no sexual touching without being asked to, and no asking from me to her, she has to initiate) because it lets the massage stand on its own. It’s about getting rid of the day, getting re-connected to call it a day, and recharge.
I’ve been asked from time to time about the comment Charmer made about “he has it all timed out” – and what that refers to –
6 minutes per foot
4 minutes per calf
4 minutes upper leg and, ahem, booty
2+ minutes on her back and shoulders
The whole thing takes a bit over 30 minutes – start with one side, move to the other. It’s a deep massage too. I can feel the muscles let loose and it’s pretty cool that she loves it so. If you’re ever inclined, it helps to use a stop watch. I’m not trying to get out of anything or say that it takes too long, I just find that it keeps it even from location to location – and that’s been a good thing too. Weird, a bit OCD, but it works.
What do I get out of it? Hehehehe – glad you asked. 🙂
I think I have the good side of the deal, personally.