H is for Harmony

People have often told us that our relationship is harmonious or that we just fit together. And while that is true, I don’t think it’s true for the reasons they think.

I saw a definition which stated that if you get along with someone and rarely fight, you have a harmonious relationship. I’d love to say, but maybe I wouldn’t, that we rarely fight, but that wouldn’t be true.

I guess it depends on how you define fight. There are some that are definite arguments with raised voices and hurt feelings, but there are some that are just disagreements on how we view the world or a situation.

We have similar values, but how we perceive those values isn’t always the same. He comes at a given situation with his own viewpoints and history as do I. Take family, for instance. We were both raised with the importance of family and in loving, supportive families. That said, how that love and support was shown was completely different in each household so we look at a challenge from different points of view.

This is true of work as well. We own our own business and both want it to succeed. We don’t always look at opportunities the same way or even a path to get from point A to point B as only one way.

We’ve spent our relationship wrangling different ways of thinking. It’s a good thing, to us, because it keeps our minds open to new possibilities and that we aren’t always right in our perceptions. It allows us to grow and to challenge each other. It makes us better versions of ourselves and a better partner to each other.

You don’t get harmony when everyone sings the same note

Doug Floyd

So, yes, there is harmony in our relationship. It just comes from making sure that we each sing our own note.