I am spoiled. Totally admit that. Snake takes care of most of the house chores except cooking and he does that on Saturdays if we are cooking at home. Laundry, cleaning, garbage and lately even grocery shopping.
He makes sure that I get my baths most nights, which includes filling the tub, putting in a bath bomb, getting my water, Kindle and phone and bringing in coffee when it is ready.
He takes care of the house repairs that are necessary and will either make sure that he is here to deal with the people or that they can come and go without interaction with me. Car repairs and maintenance as well. And if there is a phone call that needs to be made, he does it. Phone calls are my worst thing ever–it takes me days to get prepared to make one.
He is responsible for refilling my water glass and making sure that I have anything else to drink that I want. He does my manicure and pedicure every week. And backrubs several times a week. Of course.
That said, he did most of that excluding the laundry and cleaning before we officially started FLR and D/s. He does these things because he likes to take care of me even though he knows that I can and have done all of them.
So is there an expectation of service in our dynamic? Yes and no. He enjoys doing these things and I enjoy NOT doing them. And, quite often they are accomplished while he is naked so there is that perk.
If you had asked me back in February, the answer probably would have been a pretty definite yes. There are punishments and rules associated with getting these chores done when I want them done. And those are enforced when life is normal.
Since the middle of March, the rules and punishments have been pretty loose. He has been doing most of the things that are daily, but there have simply been days when his schedule wasn’t allowing it and I did them. I’ve taken over laundry on a few days because he just couldn’t get it done and things needed to be folded or washed. There was a third person in our house working that messed up the schedule as well.
So, I guess the answer is that the expectation is there because it is part of “us,” but it is also flexible. I do think that the punishments and rules are pretty close to returning, which I think is a good thing. It gives structure to our lives and reinforces the D/s dynamic on a more regular basis. But until his work life gets a little more calm, we are just taking it one day at a time.