Content warning: Deals with current events and 9/11
Boundaries are a struggle for me. I tend to go either too loose or totally tighten them down. I don’t compromise very well with them at all.
With most people, I tend to not set up strict ones. This, in general, isn’t a problem as I don’t really come in contact with that many people in my daily life. Of course, then when they stomp over me and I feel used and invaded, then I throw up the barricade and it isn’t easily taken back down.
Online I have learned to be very careful with boundaries. The anonymity of life online can be freeing or it can give people free rein to do things they would never consider doing if they had to look at the person.
I share quite a lot with friends and a decent amount with acquaintances. But when I follow someone on Twitter and then get an immediately DM asking my name and for a face picture? It’s just too much. Relationships and trust are built over time.
My biggest boundary that I try really hard to not compromise on is too much news. Yes, it is important to know what is happening in the world. I was a journalism major and being current is super important to me.
That said–I can’t do the constant barrage of news. This is not new to the current situation. After 9/11, I had to turn off the TV. Watching the same footage over and over didn’t make me feel informed. All I felt was anxious.
There have been several events since then including the shooting of Gabby Giffords in our city. The current virus is another. Yes, I want to know what I need to know to stay safe. I want to keep informed about what is being done. But the numbers flashing on the screen and the briefings at state and federal and global levels? I feel helpless and anxious and that doesn’t help anyone.
So while we continue to do what we should and keep apprised of the big picture, I will be turning off the TV and muting words and focusing on the life that I can control. It’s my boundary that needs to be tended and preserved to keep me healthy.