Not in a space alien way (although that finger on E.T. is suspicious), but in a kink-way.
Do you ever find yourself people-watching and wonder “hey, I wonder if they do fun kinky stuff?”
I find myself wondering this a lot more than I probably should. For us, we’ve had inklings about being a bit more on the fringes all along, but never embraced and really explored “this whole thing.*” So I look around and see these people who seem vanilla and sigh. Honestly, there are times when I’d love to stand up on a table and just yell,
“Wake up people! There is so much to experience and do and so much you can bring into your sensual life!”
But then reality hits. I fully realize I’d be carted off and put in a small white room with a nicely fitting jacket. Although… the bondage aspects of that are…
I’m curious if others do this too. Looking around, wondering. Charmer and I have talked about it, and you have to assume that others don’t see us as outwardly kinky. Sure, the signs are there if you know what you’re looking for (the FLR items, my day collar, other things) and you may be able to pick up on conversational items, but I don’t walk around with a neon sign pointing at us that suggests that we like these things.
It’s sad, really. I mean, there is so much to explore and so many things to experience. There’s community around the relative anonymity of it all. There is communication and experimentation. There are shared experiences. (There are one-sided experiences too). There are the facets of learning things about yourself.
Things like learning you can experience more than you think you can. That you like, or don’t like pain and it’s associated highs and lows. That you like or don’t like chastity, orgasm control, denial, games in general.
People are so wound up in their “omigosh I read 50 shades” hush-hush talk about “how kinky it is.” I wonder as I look around how many have gone further. I hope a lot have, but I doubt it.
Perhaps worse, I wonder how many even realize there IS a further? I hope we get past this thing of it not being normal. I know there are so many other posts about that, and that’s not what this is. This is a hope that we get to a point where we can talk about all of the different areas – help people choose their next area of interest. Help people understand how many things there are to explore. Shouldn’t this be included in sex-ed next to the abstinence and condoms?
I don’t necessarily need to be able to look around and identify people’s kinks, but it would be cool if we didn’t have to even refer to them as that. What if it was just “what they like,” not kinks.
I get all fired up about this stuff because it’s become so clear that it’s a good thing. It’s a positive in our lives and those of so many people we have come to know online. The communication it brings, the new play time and closeness and just plain adult fun.
I hope more people can find and embrace “this whole thing” and find what floats their own boats. It may be quite unexpected and may be much more abundant than they anticipated.
*I’m not sure really what to call it – just calling it “kinky” doesn’t seem to do it justice. Maybe we’ll start just calling it TWT or something.